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I've posted on here, as do many people, about the problems of co parenting with a manuplating BPD or npd or in many cases a bit of both. So my access issues still exist, she will never let up. Thankfully through these posts and my T I've been able to get through this. This week I was on the verge of throwing in the towel. Ex BPD will not let go of my giving up access but I've changed so her old tactics are not working, I moved the goal posts. She's insisting s9 is slipping  bad in school as a result of his access with me. In past I would of let her manuplating work, I would of been riddled with FOG and given up my time and than she flat refuses to return the gesture when I want to get some of the time back. I'm not budging on giving up time. So she turns up the heat, says she's missing a day a week from work since January bc s9 is leaving school, sick. I don't let her words effect me, I do something about it, I go to the source, s9s teacher. She says he's doing great, in fact, in proving,  I check his attendance, s9 has missed 2 days since January.  She text me yesterday saying what am I going to do about s9 schooling, that he called to co e home, said he was sick. No problem, I call the school, the lady at the school said s9 hurt his knee on the trampoline and went home. Ex BPD is bent out of shape bc I went to s9 principal with the court order and they can't do enough for me. Ex BPD use to tell me not to call the school, she would tell me what I need to know. Baffling, she knows I'm in contact with the school, she knows that I now get copies of s9 report card and attendance,  she knows I'm on top of his education and she still lies and tries to manipulate. She knows I've been Journaling for several years, she knows I save all her texts and prove her affidavits are mostly lies and she knows I'm Journaling now, but she insists on continuing to lie.

It seems to me that you've been clawing your way to the top from being in a one-down position for quite a while. Asserting boundaries, and being proactive has gotten you to this point. I see no reason not to continue advocating for both yourself and your son. She's proven in the past that she will take whatever you let her. Do you think it worth it to assert the truth, however briefly in order to avoid argument? Is there a risk here if you do nothing other than what you are doing, which is the right thing by your boy?