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Title: Push pull Post by: Maxine73 on May 27, 2016, 03:08:46 PM My fiance has eupd and I am finding the push pull.side hard to cope with does anyone else have this problem and how do you cope .
Title: Re: Push pull Post by: Mutt on May 27, 2016, 11:34:09 PM Hi Maxine73,
*welcome* I'm sorry to hear that you're going through that. A pwBPD want intimacy and can't sustain healthy adult intimacy when we become close and push us away. The distance then triggers the fear of abandonment, what a pwBPD fear the most and they pull us closer. The push / pull behavior from a pwBPD can feel like crazy making behavior to the non-disordered person. Do you get some time for yourself for selfcare? Do you have a family member or friend that you can turn to when it's difficult to cope? Title: Re: Push pull Post by: waverider on May 28, 2016, 07:23:49 AM Are there any particular examples you could give to help illustrate how these traits are being exhibited in your case?
It is hard to stop someone else from exhibiting push pull, but you can limit how much it affects you. |