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Title: My LDR Boyfriend has BPD Post by: AnonChick on August 06, 2016, 05:05:36 PM My partner has BPD, i'm not sure if this could be part of the condition (I apologize if condition is the wrong terminology) I have recently discovered that he had made a false profile but before this came about he began to introducing this "New friend" of his and then suddenly this new friend had made a profile which I thought nothing of because my partner is allowed friends, that's nothing to do with me but when this new friend contacted me, I began to realize that it was in fact my partner who was writing to me. I would like to know if this is something people with BPD do? Because I feel like he lies to me quite a bit and I have researched about BPD to try and get a bit of a better understanding and I don't know how true it is but I learned that BPD can be compulsive liars? (I hope to not offend anyone)
Title: Re: My LDR Boyfriend has BPD Post by: VitaminC on August 06, 2016, 05:21:25 PM Hi AnonChick,
You are welcome here. It's a good place with many people who will listen, share their own experiences, and what they've learned about themselves. You will find support and surely some answers. Don't worry about getting the terminology right. It takes a while to learn all the jargon, and it's only useful as a kind of shorthand. Did you have a look at some of the resources here? This might be a good place to start: https://bpdfamily.com/content/what-borderline-personality-disorder I am not sure exactly what is happening in your situation. Do you mean that you think, or know, that your partner created some kind of profile that he is using to write to you undercover? To pretend that he is someone else and so carry on a conversation of some kind with you? I don't think that specifically is the kind of thing that people with BPD do. It is certainly slightly odd behaviour. If I've got that right, why are you sure that it is your partner and why do you think he might do such a thing? My immediate idea is that it might be some kind of testing behaviour, to see how you will react. My speculation about that might be that it's the kind of thing a jealous and insecure person might come up with. There may be other possibilities. Can you tell us more about your relationship and yourself? How long have you been together? Do you live together? What is the relationship like in general? Title: Re: My LDR Boyfriend has BPD Post by: ArleighBurke on August 07, 2016, 09:55:29 PM Is he testing you to see if you'll "cheat" with the "other person"?
Most of the time I think no-one knows the motivations behind a BPDs bahaviours... . |