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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: Bushido on December 27, 2016, 05:02:29 PM



Title: BPDexw moving away with 2 kids for 6 months.. 900 km btw
Post by: Bushido on December 27, 2016, 05:02:29 PM
hi... .

well ... .seems like this is in the picture...
we have 4 kids and social service seems to be think this is a good solution ...
... and reevaluate after six months.

and here i am... .feeling like i´m abandoning the two that are going with her.
i mean ... .moving in with a guy they have met twice.

i just have no word on how i feel!


Title: Re: BPDexw moving away with 2 kids for 6 months.. 900 km btw
Post by: Thomas0311 on December 29, 2016, 01:21:58 PM
Wow, I can't even imagine how this must feel.  I don't understand how social services thinks it's in the kids best interest to be split up into two groups of two... .this decision severs (affects) sixteen relationships (three for each child [a parent and two siblings], and two for each parent [the two kids not with them]). Rather than leaving the four  children together, which just affects four relationships (those with the parent who left). Is there any way you can bring this kind of logic up to the powers who are making this ruling, this strategy that social services is recommending seems to create way more chaos and potential damage to the kids, than leaving them together. Not only that, but it's extremely unfair to you, and your children.