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Title: Romantic gestures when she starts pulling away - good or bad idea? Post by: stamusic on May 20, 2017, 06:43:13 AM My girlfriend has tried breaking up with me again, 2nd time. I told her I'll give her as much space as she needs and we haven't spoken in the last few days since that breakup conversation. She's not aggressive/abusive or any of those sadly awful parts of BPD, but more so really beats herself up saying I'm no good for her, shouldn't wait around for her ect. She's been diagnosed and been in therapy for a couple years now.
For the past couple days she has been giving hints online that she wants me to reach out/grab my attention. So I'm thinking perhaps meeting her after her work with flowers or some romantic gesture - my way of saying 'I'm not going anywhere', and also that if she actually wants to break up with me, she must respect me enough to do it in person rather over text, since she's never broken up with me in person and can't imagine her doing so either. (my way of showing that I am validating/understanding that she's going through a tough time, and want to still be here for her, but also standing my ground). So what'd you think, good or bad idea for romantic gestures? Title: Re: Romantic gestures when she starts pulling away - good or bad idea? Post by: mattH on May 23, 2017, 01:25:38 PM I'd skip the flowers and chocolates and instead /do/ something with her. Take her somewhere.
Not a dinner - instead it is a climb up a hidden trail that leads to a tower with an amazing view. Or indoor rock-climbing. DO something. Get physical. MOVE. Surprise her. good luck. |