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What's your favorite BPD relationship song?

Mine would be any of Taylor Swift's dysfunctional songs and Nirvana Aneurysm.  Love you so much it makes me sick... .beat me out of me.

Ive honestly been listening to The Weeknd and I swear he seems to know what its like to date a woman with BPD,

Secrets
Aquainted
Shameless
And countless others that relate (minus the coke usage I relate too

Rather simplistic all the same.

Robyn 'Be Mine'.

Chorus includes the lyrics 'You never were & you never will be mine'.

Could see it that way as the BPD person or the non I guess?

Madonna "borderline"

Also, the Muppet Show theme tune, as she was a drunken muppet. Like a disordered Miss Piggy when raging :)

"Please don't leave me"-Pink

I don't know if I can yell any louder
How many time I've kicked you outta here?
Or said something insulting?
I can be so mean when I wanna be
I am capable of really anything
I can cut you into pieces
When my heart is, broken
Please don't leave me
Please don't leave me
I'm always saying how I don't need you
But it's always gonna come right back to this
Please, don't leave me
How did I become so obnoxious?
What is it with you that makes me act like this?
I've never been this nasty
Can't you tell that this is all just a contest?
The one that wins will be the one that hits the hardest
But baby I don't mean it
I mean it, I promise
Please don't leave me
Please don't leave me
I'm always saying how I don't need you
But it's always gonna come right back to this
Please, don't leave me
I forgot to say out loud how beautiful you really are to me
I can't be without, you're my perfect little punching bag
And I need you, I'm sorry.
Please, please don't leave me
Baby, please don't leave me
No, don't leave me
Please don't leave me
I'm always saying how I don't need you
But it's always gonna come right back,
It's gonna come right back to this.
Please, don't leave me.
I always say how I don't need you
But it's always gonna come right back to this
Please don't leave me
Baby, please don't leave me


"Somebody I used to know"-Gotye

[Verse 1: Gotye]
Now and then I think of when we were together
Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
Told myself that you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it's an ache I still remember

[Verse 2: Gotye]
You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness
Like resignation to the end, always the end
So when we found that we could not make sense
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I'll admit that I was glad it was over

[Chorus: Gotye]
But you didn't have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don't even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and that feels so rough
No you didn't have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don't need that though
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Now you're just somebody that I used to know
Now you're just somebody that I used to know

Unsteady X Ambassador. This song always strikes a chord with me.

@pretty woman ... those two are also mine... .I even told my x during one of the brief beeakuops he snow someone that I used to know

From the perspective of my ex, who used to use songs to describe how he was feeling inside, one he used to play over and over was Ellie Goulding - Still falling for you.  I think in idealisation stages we both could relate to this one.

"Still Falling For You"

Fire and ice
This love is like fire and ice
This love is like rain and blue skies
This love is like sun on the rise
This love got me rolling the dice
Don't let me lose
Still falling for you
Still falling for you

Beautiful mind
Your heart got a story with mine
Your heart got me hurting at times
Your heart gave me new kind of highs
Your heart got me feeling so fine
So what to do
Still falling for you
Still falling for you

It took us a while
With every breath a new day
With love on the line
We've had our share of mistakes
But all your flaws and scars are mine
Still falling for you
Still falling for you

And just like that
All I breathe
All I feel
You are all for me
I'm in
And just like that
All I breathe
All I feel
You are all for me
No one can lift me, catch me the way that you do
I'm still falling for you

Brighter than gold
This love shining brighter than gold
This love is like letters in bold
This love is like out of control
This love's never growing old
You make it new
Still falling for you
Still falling for you

It took us a while
'Cause we were young and unsure
With love on the line
What if we both would need more
But all your flaws and scars are mine
Still falling for you
Still falling for you
Still falling for you

And just like that
All I breathe
All I feel
You are all for me
I'm in
And just like that
All I breathe
All I feel
You are all for me
No one can lift me, catch me the way that you do
I'm still falling for you

Falling, crash into my arms
Love you like this
Like a first kiss
Never let go
Falling, crash into my arms
Never breaking what we got
Still falling for you
Still falling for... .

And just like that
All I breathe
All I feel
You are all for me
I'm in
And just like that
All I breathe
All I feel
You are all for me
All for me

And just like that
All I need is you
All I feel is you
You are all for me
I'm still falling... .
And just like that
All I need is you
All I feel is you
You are all for me
No one can lift me, catch me the way that you do
I'm still falling for you

At the end of the r/s this is what he sent me a video of on Youtube.  Queen - Love of my life:

"Love Of My Life"

Love of my life, you've hurt me,
You've broken my heart and now you leave me.
Love of my life can't you see,
Bring it back, bring it back,
Don't take it away from me because you don't know what it means to me.

Love of my life, don't leave me,
[Album version:] You've taken my love, you now desert me,
[Live version:] You've stolen my love, you now desert me,
Love of my life, can't you see?
Bring it back, bring it back,
Don't take it away from me because you don't know what it means to me.

You will remember
When this is blown over
And everything's all by the way
When I grow older
I will be there at your side to remind you how I still love you, I still love you.

[Album version:] Back, hurry back,
[Live version:] Hurry back, hurry back,
[Album version:] Please, bring it back home to me because you don't know what it means to me.
[Live version:] Don't take it away from me, because you don't know what it means to me -

Love of my life
Love of my life... .

Not long after I was told that 'Now you're just somebody that I used to know'... .

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Oh god, those exact words were said to me too!

"Bad For Me" by Brendan Benson

Well here it goes again
Another losing streak
Guess I'm on a roll
I haven't got a chance
I'm too weak
She sucks my soul

And this St Christopher
That hangs around my neck
Has got to be a fake
'Cause I crash every time
The same old wreck
The same mistake

And I make a mental note so I don't forget
A little reminder of what hasn't happened yet

Well maybe she's bad for me
But I don't care to see
'Cause what I want and what I need
Are the same to me
In the end

And there is a voice in my head saying no
But my mouth says yes
I should stop I know but I really wanna go
it's okay I guess

And I've played with fire so many times before
Guess I'll never learn
Just like an addict I keep coming back for more
Come to love that burn

And I make a mental note so I don't forget
A Little reminder of what hasn't happened yet

Well maybe she's bad for me (Bad for me)
But I don't care to see
'Cause what I want and what I need (What I need)
Are the same to me

Well maybe she's bad for me (Bad for me)
But I don't care to see
'Cause what I want and what I need (What I need)
Are the same to me

There is a feeling that I get deep in my gut
But I pay no mind
Instinct out of sync but so what
Love is blind

And I make a mental note so I don't forget
A Little reminder of what hasn't happened yet

She's gonna be the death of me
Here it comes again
The only leaf left on the tree
And blowing in the wind

Well maybe she's bad for me (Bad for me)
But I don't care to see
'Cause what I want and what I need (What I need)
Are the same to me
In the end
In the end

I was reticent to post this cuz it feels a little too self interest and ego, but if it helps anyone to hear the way it helped me to write - a musical project I'm in has a song about BPD experiences. It's "The Caption - Crutch". 

When you pack your bags,
I hope you leave what's mine.
It happened way too fast,
Love is always blind.

So many ways around the truth,
All of these ways lead back to you,
Don't be afraid to follow through.
Don't be afraid to cut me loose.

I was looking for a lover,
You were looking for a crutch.
I've had the music and the moonshine,
I need a woman I can trust.
We were dancing with the devil,
Oh, my feet could only take so much.
I was looking for a lover,
You were looking for a crutch.

No, we can't go back,
To the mess we made.
But it'd be so much worse,
If the story changed.
Come on and own the hand you played,
I know you never meant to stay,
I'm not so good at faking love,
I know damn well we made it up.

I was looking for a lover,
Oh, but you were looking for a crutch.
I've had the music and the moonshine,
I need a woman I can trust.
We were dancing with the devil,
My feet could only take so much.
I was looking for a lover,
You were looking for a crutch.

I am filled, with jealousy and wildness.
And I want you to be happy,
But I cannot fix your sadness.
The rules we broke, the plans we made,
The fights we had and the blood we gave,
Yeah I know that it was madness,
But sometimes I miss the madness.

I was looking for a lover,
Oh, but you were looking for a crutch.
I've had the music and the moonshine,
I need a woman I can trust.
We were dancing with the devil,
I think we both have had enough.
I was looking for a lover,
You were looking for a crutch.

Bob Dylan - Don't Think Twice, It's Alright

It ain’t no use to sit and wonder why, babe

It don’t matter, anyhow

An’ it ain’t no use to sit and wonder why, babe

If you don’t know by now

When your rooster crows at the break of dawn

Look out your window and I’ll be gone

You’re the reason I’m trav’lin’ on

Don’t think twice, it’s all right



It ain’t no use in turnin’ on your light, babe

That light I never knowed

An’ it ain’t no use in turnin’ on your light, babe

I’m on the dark side of the road

Still I wish there was somethin’ you would do or say

To try and make me change my mind and stay

We never did too much talkin’ anyway

So don’t think twice, it’s all right



It ain’t no use in callin’ out my name, gal

Like you never did before

It ain’t no use in callin’ out my name, gal

I can’t hear you anymore

I’m a-thinkin’ and a-wond’rin’ all the way down the road

I once loved a woman, a child I’m told

I give her my heart but she wanted my soul

But don’t think twice, it’s all right



I’m walkin’ down that long, lonesome road, babe

Where I’m bound, I can’t tell

But goodbye’s too good a word, gal

So I’ll just say fare thee well

I ain’t sayin’ you treated me unkind

You could have done better but I don’t mind

You just kinda wasted my precious time

But don’t think twice, it’s all right

The Beatles - For No One

[Verse 1]
The day breaks, your mind aches
You find that all her words of kindness linger on
When she no longer needs you

She wakes up, she makes up
She takes her time and doesn't feel she has to hurry
She no longer needs you

[Chorus]
And in her eyes you see nothing
No sign of love behind her tears
Cried for no one
A love that should have lasted years

[Verse 2]
You want her, you need her
And yet you don't believe her when she says her love is dead
You think she needs you

[Chorus]
And in her eyes you see nothing
No sign of love behind her tears
Cried for no one
A love that should have lasted years

[Verse 3]
You stay home, she goes out
She says that long ago she knew someone but now he's gone
She doesn't need him
Your day breaks, your mind aches
There will be times when all the things she said will fill your head
You won't forget her

[Chorus]
And in her eyes you see nothing
No sign of love behind her tears
Cried for no one
A love that should have lasted years

Wounds fresh tear the scabs off again one more time,
Compassion become my human rights worn to nubs.
This is a aong my friend showed me
The fontaines.?

My friend Sally says she knows ya
Got a funny point of view
Says you got away with murder
Maybe one time, maybe two
Something happens in the morning
When I can't see those failing eyes
I can't find a good word for ya
Does it come as a surprise?
I don't think we'd rhyme
I will wear you down in time
I will hurt you, I'll desert you
I am Jackie down the line
Said did Sally 'bout a future
Before you bored of her as well
If all you want is entertainment
If you can't have it you make hell
Don't make no odds for you
To be told, yeah
Don't make no odds for you
To be told, yeah
I don't think we'd rhyme
I will wear you down in time
I will hurt you, I'll desert you
I am Jackie down the line
I don't think we'd rhyme
I will make your secrets mine
I will hate you, I'll debase you
I am Jackie down the line
   



So come on down to Sally's boneyard
See her spirit in decline
See the handsome mourners crying
They hawked a beating heart for a sturdy spine, yeah
What good is happiness to me
If I've to wield it carefully?
For care I'll always come up short
It's only right
I don't think we'd rhyme
I will wear you down in time
I will hurt you, I'll desert you
I'm one Jackeen of a line
I don't think we'd rhyme
I will take up all your time
I will chew you, I'll go through you
I am Jackie down the line
I don't think we'd rhyme
I will make your secrets mine
I will hate you, I'll debase you
I am Jackie down the line
And I will stone you, I'll alone you
I am Jackie down the line
If I can make you, I can break you
I am Jackie down the line


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For someone with a borderline mother, Kelly Clarkon's Because of you song:

I will not make the same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself 'cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did
You fell so hard
I've learned the hard way, to never let it get that far

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side, so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I lose my way
And it's not too long before you point it out
I cannot cry
Because I know that's weakness in your eyes
I'm forced to fake a smile, a laugh
Every day of my life
My heart can't possibly break
When it wasn't even whole to start with

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side, so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I watched you die (I watched you die)
I heard you cry
Every night in your sleep
I was so young (and you're so young)
You should have known better (I was too young for you)
Than to lean on me

You never thought of anyone else
You just saw your pain (you never saw me)
And now I cry
In the middle of the night
For the same damn thing

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

Because of you
Because of you

"Jackie Down the Line" by The Fontaines D.C. is the song you were referencing.

Wow! This one seems so spot on to me. Excellent suggestion and a cool, dark, haunting song for those of us who've been in a BPD relationship. Thank you.

I cant think of a song, but I can only think of a few titles that reminds me of the relationship with the ex.

Crazy Train (oz)

Harvester of Sorrow (metallica)

Not Meant to Be, By Theory of a Deadman.


It's never enough to say I'm sorry
It's never enough to say I care
But I'm caught between what you wanted from me
And knowing if I give that to ya I might just disappear
Nobody wins when everyone's losing
It's like one step forward and two steps back
No matter what I do you're always mad, and I, I can't change your mind
It's like trying to turn around on a one-way street
I can't give you what you want and it's killing me
And I, I'm starting to see
Maybe we're not meant to be
It's never enough to say "I love you"
No, it's never enough to say I try
It's hard to believe that there's no way out for you and me
It seems to be the story of our life
Nobody wins when everyone's losing
It's like one step forward and two steps back
No matter what I do you're always mad, and I, I can't change your mind
It's like trying to turn around on a one way street
I can't give you what you want and it's killing me
And I, I'm starting to see
Maybe we're not meant to be
There's still time to turn this around
Should we be building this up instead of tearing it down?
But I keep thinking maybe it's too late
It's like one step forward and two steps back
No matter what I do you're always mad, and I, I can't change your mind
It's like trying to turn around on a one-way street
I can't give you what you want and it's killing me
And I, I finally see
Baby we're not meant to be
It's like one step forward and two steps back
No matter what I do you're always mad, and I
Baby I'm sorry to see
Maybe we're not meant to be

Slipknot - Vermilion

She seems dressed in all the rings
Of past fatalaties
So fragile yet so devious
She continues to see it
Climatic hands that press
Her temples and my chest
Enter the night that she came home
Forever

Oh (She's the only one that makes me sad)

She is everything and more
The solemn hypnotic
My Dahlia bathed in possession
She is home to me
I get nervous, perverse, when I see her it's worse
But the stress is astounding
It's now or never she's coming home
Forever

Oh (she's the only one that makes me sad)
(Coming alive, she's coming alive)

Hard to say what caught my attention
Vixen crazy, aphid attraction
Carve my name in my face to recognize
Such a pheromone cult to terrorize

I won't let this build up inside of me
I won't let this build up inside of me
I won't let this build up inside of me
I won't let this build up inside of me

Yeah!

I'm a slave, and I am a master
No restraints and unchecked collectors
I exist through my need, to self-oblige
She is something in me, that I despise

I won't let this build up inside of me
I won't let this build up inside of me
I won't let this build up inside of me
I won't let this build up inside of me
I won't let this build up inside of me
I won't let this build up inside of me
I won't let this build up inside of me
I won't let this build up inside of me

She isn't real
I can't make her real
She isn't real
I can't make her real
She isn't real
I can't make her real
She isn't real
I can't make her real

  |---> Oh Sh!t by the Buzzcocks

Or

 |---> Ever Fallen in Love (With Someone You Shouldn't've), also by the Buzzcocks

 :wee:

Foo Fighters - I Should Have Known

I should've known that it would end this way
I should've known there was no other way
Didn't hear your warning
Damn my heart gone deaf

I should've known
Look at the shape you're in
I should've known
But I dove right in
One thing is for certain
As I'm standing here
I should've known

Lay your hands in mine
Heal me one last time

Though I cannot forgive you yet
No, I cannot forgive you yet
Leave my heart in debt

I should've known
I was inside of you
I should've known
There was that side of you
Came without a warning
Caught me unaware

I should've known
I've been here before
I should have known
Don't want it anymore
One thing is for certain
I'm still standing here
I should've known

Lay your hands in mine
Feel me one last time
Though I cannot forgive you yet
No, I cannot forgive you yet
You leave my heart in debt
No, I cannot forgive you yet
No, I cannot forgive you yet
You leave my heart in debt

I should've known

Maybe you was right
Didn't wanna fight
I should've known
Couldn't read the signs
Couldn't see the light
I should've known

Though I cannot forgive you yet
No, I cannot forgive you yet
You leave my heart in debt
No, I cannot forgive you yet
No, I cannot forgive you yet
You leave my heart in debt
No, I cannot forgive you yet
No, I cannot forgive you yet
You leave us all in debt
I should've known

Bright Eyes - War on War

I think Corey Taylor was in a lot of BPD relations, or maybe he is the one with BPD... "Love is just a camouflage for what resembles rage again."

Snuff
Bury all your secrets in my skin
Come away with innocence and leave me with my sins
The air around me still feels like a cage
And love is just a camouflage for what resembles rage again
So if you love me let me go
And run away before I know
My heart is just too dark to care
I can't destroy what isn't there
Deliver me into my fate
If I'm alone I cannot hate
I don't deserve to have you
Ooh, my smile was taken long ago
If I can change I hope I never know
I still press your letters to my lips
And cherish them in parts of me that savor every kiss
I couldn't face a life without your lights
But all of that was ripped apart when you refused to fight
So save your breath, I will not care
I think I made it very clear
You couldn't hate enough to love
Is that supposed to be enough?
I only wish you weren't my friend
Then I could hurt you in the end
I never claimed to be a saint
Ooh, my own was banished long ago
It took the death of hope to let you go
So break yourself against my stones
And spit your pity in my soul
You never needed any help
You sold me out to save yourself
And I won't listen to your shame
You ran away, you? re all the same
Angels lie to keep control
Ooh, my love was punished long ago
If you still care don't ever let me know
If you still care don't ever let me know

Yeah man Corey knows and has clearly been in a relationship with a BPD/NPD in one way or another. It’s very apparent through his lyrics with both Slipknot & Stone Sour.

Slipknot - Unsainted

Oh, I'll never kill myself to save my soul
I was gone, but how was I to know?
I didn't come this far to sink so low
I'm finally holding on to letting go
(I'll never kill myself to save my soul)
I'm finally holding on to letting go
(I didn't come this far to sink so low)
I'm finally holding on to letting go
I'm just weathering a rough patch
Another villain with an itch to scratch
Denial is the darkest when you live in a hole
Why does the hell make you feel so cold?
Make a move and you pay for it
Pick a lord and you pray to it
You're so demanding when you want the truth
But your stories don't read for me
Oh, I'll never kill myself to save my soul
I was gone, but how was I to know?
I didn't come this far to sink so low
I'm finally holding on to letting go
Indecision overload
Keep a buckle on the devil and your eyes on the road
Reaching out for the hand of God
But did you think you'd shake your own?
This killing field is all grown over
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Go sow your oats in alphabetical order
The anti-antagonist is back in style
(Myopic) cannot see straight
(Dystopic) one sin too late
You gotta lie if you wanna believe
But your bibles don't work on me
Oh, I'll never kill myself to save my soul
I was gone, but how was I to know?
I didn't come this far to sink so low
I'm finally holding on to letting
Go
Did you think you could win? And fill me in?
Did you think you could do it again? I'm not your sin
I was all that you wanted and more, but you didn't want me
I was more than you thought I could be
So I'm setting you free, I'm setting you free
You've killed the saint in me
How dare you martyr me
You've killed the saint in me
Oh, I'll never kill myself to save my soul
I was gone, but how was I to know?
I didn't come this far to sink so low
I'm finally holding on to letting go
You've killed the saint in me
How dare you martyr me?
You've killed the saint in me
How dare you martyr me?

For those ones who are living with someone who has co-existing conditions.

Narcissist
Song by Avery Anna

Lyrics
Out of touch with my feelings
I can't help it if I'm happy or sad
Today I cried for no reason
Made me feel like a psychopath
I should hate you 'cause I love you
You should hate yourself for treating me like that
We both know you only love you
Did you know they have a name for that?
You say that I'm crazy
You say that you're sorry
Won't happen again
You say I'm dramatic
I'm overreacting
And maybe I am
And I know you'll get over me
But can you get over yourself?
Before you go and love somebody else
You should probably get some help
My parents don't like you
Why would they want to?
After they found me crying on the bathroom floor
I don't even like me anymore
'Cause you say that I'm crazy
You say that you're sorry
Won't happen again
You say I'm dramatic
I'm overreacting
And maybe I am
And I know you'll get over me
But can you get over yourself?
Before you go and love somebody else
You should probably get some help
You lose your voice when you yell too much
Don't say you love me until you mess up
Phone calls past twelve o'clock, wanting me back
Don't you know that they got a name for that?
You say that I'm crazy
You say that you're sorry
Won't happen again
You say I'm dramatic
I'm overreacting
And maybe I am
And I know you'll get over me
But can you get over yourself?
Before you go and love somebody else
You should probably get some help

Also,...


Borderline
Song by Brandy

Lyrics
Ah, yeah, yeah, yeah
Ah
Ah
Oh, yeah
Oh, yeah
Oh
You're sorry, you're sorry (sorry)
What would you do if you're alone? (Yeah)
Would you think about me?
I know there's something wrong with you
On my mind all the time
It is what it is
Feeling crazy (feeling)
Wanna be with me deep down (deep down)
You can feel it, you can't help it, baby
I'll give you this heart of mine
Ooh
I'm on the borderline, yeah-yeah (oh)
Ooh
Don't wanna be schizo this time (oh)
Never ever cheat, never lie to me
I'm the most jealous girl (girl)
In the whole wide world (world)
Don't you ever hurt me
I'll change on you
I will do, me and you, how
'Cause I'm falling in love all alone (oh, I)
Come on home
Never treat me the same, I ain't the same
I'm like nobody else
Oh
Ooh
I'm on the borderline, yeah-yeah (oh)
Ooh (ooh)
Don't wanna be schizo this time (oh)
Never ever cheat, never lie to me
I'm the most jealous girl (girl)
In the whole wide world (don't you ever)
(Don't you ever) don't you ever hurt me
I'll change on you (oh, I will do)
I will do, me and you, how
I'm so dangerous, baby
I need you to see
Believe what you see
Feel what I feel
And my feelings don't die
It's why I cry (cry)
I need to heal
Got another lady, having a baby
Going crazy, but I'll be your friend, baby
Take what I can, baby
Back then I couldn't take no chances
Karma is a bitch, baby
Ooh
I'm on the borderline, yeah-yeah (oh)
Ooh (ooh)
Don't wanna be schizo this time (schizo this time, ah)
Never ever cheat, never lie to me
I'm the most jealous girl (I'm the most jealous girl)
In the whole wide world (in the whole wide world)
Don't you ever hurt me
I'll change on you
I will do, me and you, how
Heart drops to the floor
'Cause there's no you and I
Maybe in another lifetime (right place)
Caught me at the wrong time (wrong time)
In the end, I'm the only one
Gon' get torn apart (oh)
In the end, I'm the only one (that's gonna)
Gon' be torn apart

Very accurate from my experience

Barely Breathing
Duncan Sheik

I know what you're doing
I see it all too clear
I only taste the saline
When I kiss away your tears
You really had me goin'
Wishin' on a star
The black holes that surround you
Are heavier by far
I believed in your confusion
You were so completely torn
It must've been that yesterday
Was the day that I was born
There's not much to examine
There's nothing left to hide
You really can't be serious
If you have to ask me why
I say goodbye
'Cause I am barely breathing
And I can't find the air
I don't know who I'm kidding
Imagining you care
And I could stand here waiting
A fool for another day
I don't suppose it's worth the price
And worth the price, the price that I would pay
And everyone keeps asking, "What's it all about?"
I used to be so certain and I can't figure out
What is this attraction?
I only feel the pain
There's nothing left to reason and only you to blame
Will it ever change?
'Cause I am barely breathing
And I can't find the air
I don't know who I'm kidding
Imagining you care
And I could stand here waiting
A fool for another day
I don't suppose it's worth the price
And worth the price, the price that I would pay
But I'm thinking it over anyway
I'm thinking it over anyway
I've come to find
I may never know
Your changing mind
Is it friend or foe?
I rise above
Or sink below
With every time
You come and go
Please don't
Come and go
'Cause I am barely breathing
And I can't find the air
I don't know who I'm kidding
Imagining you care
And I could stand here waiting
A fool for another day
I don't suppose it's worth the price
And worth the price, the price that I would pay
But I'm thinking it over anyway
I'm thinking it over anyway
And I know what you're doin'
I see it all too clear

There are quite a few that come to mind and so I won't be posting any lyrics, just song titles:

From a more BPD sufferer perspective:

Imminence - Saturated Soul
nothing, nowhere - deadbeat valentine (my ex used to play that regularly when we got back together)
Nico Collins - Hate Me

From the perspective of someone who has a BPD ex they are still in love with or who they have gone back to for it to fail again like me:

Ed Sheehan - Bad Habits
Illenium - Story of my Life
All Time Low, Demi Lovato - Monsters
In Flames - Stay with Me

There are definitely some I am forgetting

The are so many times that my I’m dealing with my husband’s dysfunctional behaviors that this song pops into my head (as if from the individual with BPD’s perspective)

Never Enough from The Greatest Showman

I'm trying to hold my breath
Let it stay this way
Can't let this moment end
You set off a dream in me
Getting louder now
Can you hear it echoing?
Take my hand
Will you share this with me?
'Cause darling, without you
All the shine of a thousand spotlights
All the stars we steal from the night sky
Will never be enough
Never be enough
Towers of gold are still too little
These hands could hold the world but it'll
Never be enough
Never be enough
For me
Never, never
Never, never
Never, for me
For me
Never enough
Never enough
Never enough
For me
For me
For me
All the shine of a thousand spotlights
All the stars we steal from the night sky
Will never be enough
Never be enough
Towers of gold are still too little
These hands could hold the world but it'll
Never be enough
Never be enough
For me
Never, never
Never, never
Never, for me
For me
Never enough
Never, never
Never enough
Never, never
Never enough
For me

WHY by Annie Lennox also perhaps
NO MORE I LOVE YOUs by Lennox

Ok, as someone who fell in love with someone that had severe BPD as well as several other conditions, I relate to this song the most. I find this song healing since I was the one addicted to his push pull and that massive dopamine spike he’d give me to try his best for me not to leave him. He was like spicy food but it was an unhealthy unstable untrusting love with so many more downs than ups. He was void-filling from emotional abuse from my mom, made worse since she loved him and us together because he didn't show the angry side of himself to anyone else.
He was the most depressed/upset/offended with deaths, loss of friendship or fear of loss of friendship/love. I am fairly sure I was the only one to ever date him so far and he’s 41 years old.

This song is for you, when I ran and couldn’t talk to you anymore afraid I’d get trapped again its too painful feeling your feels. I wish I could have convinced you to get treatment. I wish I didn’t give into your suicidal threats, burning and cutting to see me again. I was too young and too addicted to you not understanding mental health. I wish you didn’t avoid all the issues we had, and instead change horrible behaviors even just a little. I loved you so much I wrote you love poems and said I said no to all the other boys asking me out when I was with you. No one ever took me from you, I ran.

I love you and I miss you but “I am sorry” over and over can never ever undo the trauma you did to me.

I can never even talk to you again. Thank you for staying away and angry its been an amazing gift.

Just Like a Pill
by Pink


I'm lyin' here on the floor where you left me
I think I took too much
I'm crying here, what have you done?
I thought it would be fun
I can't stay on your life support
There's a shortage in the switch
I can't stay on your morphine
'Cause it's making me itch
I said I tried to call the nurse again
But she's being a little bitch
I think I'll get outta here, where I can
Run just as fast as I can
To the middle of nowhere
To the middle of my frustrated fears
And I swear you're just like a pill
'Stead of makin' me better
You keep makin' me ill
You keep makin' me ill
I haven't moved from the spot where you left me
This must be a bad trip
All of the other pills, they were different
Maybe I should get some help
I can't stay on your life support
There's a shortage in the switch
I can't stay on your morphine
'Cause it's making me itch
I said I tried to call the nurse again
But she's being a little bitch
I think I'll get outta here, where I can
Run just as fast as I can
To the middle of nowhere
To the middle of my frustrated fears
And I swear you're just like a pill
'Stead of makin' me better
You keep makin' me ill
You keep makin' me ill
Run just as fast as I can
To the middle of nowhere
To the middle of my frustrated fears
And I swear you're just like a pill
'Stead of makin' me better
You keep makin' me ill
You keep makin' me ill
I can't stay on your life support
There's a shortage in the switch (just like a pill)
I can't stay on your morphine
'Cause it's making me itch (just like a pill)
I said I tried to call the nurse again
But she's being a little bitch (just like a pill)
I think I'll get outta here, where I can
Run just as fast as I can
To the middle of nowhere
To the middle of my frustrated fears
And I swear you're just like a pill
'Stead of makin' me better
You keep makin' me ill
You keep makin' me
Run just as fast as I can
To the middle of nowhere
To the middle of my frustrated fears
And I swear you're just like a pill
'Stead of makin' me better
You keep makin' me ill
You keep makin' me ill
Run just as fast as I can
To the middle of nowhere
To the middle of my frustrated fears
And I swear you're just like a pill
'Stead of makin' me better
You keep makin' me ill
You keep makin' me ill
Run just as fast as I can
To the middle of nowhere
To the middle of my frustrated fears

Always a Woman to Me - Billy Joel

She can kill with a smile, she can wound with her eyes
And she can ruin your faith with her casual lies
And she only reveals what she wants you to see
She hides like a child but she's always a woman to me
She can lead you to love, she can take you or leave you
She can ask for the truth but she'll never believe you
And she'll take what you give her as long as it's free
Yeah, she steals like a thief, but she's always a woman to me
Oh, she takes care of herself, she can wait if she wants
She's ahead of her time
Oh, and she never gives out and she never gives in
She just changes her mind
And she'll promise you more than the garden of Eden
Then she'll carelessly cut you and laugh while you're bleeding
But she'll bring out the best and the worst you can be
Blame it all on yourself 'cause she's always a woman to me
Mmm-mmm, mmm-mmm
Mmm-mmm, mmm-mmm-mmm-mmm
Oh, she takes care of herself, she can wait if she wants
She's ahead of her time
Oh, and she never gives out and she never gives in
She just changes her mind
She is frequently kind and she's suddenly cruel
But she can do as she pleases, she's nobody's fool
And she can't be convicted, she's earned her degree
And the most she will do is throw shadows at you
But she's always a woman to me

"Dirty Magic" By: The Offspring

In my own simple way
I think she wants me only
She said, "Come over right away"
But she's just not that way
Her little soul is stolen
See her put on her brand new face
Go on and pull the shades
Razor blades
You're so tragic
Go on, I hate you so
But love you more
I'm so elastic
Of all the things you say
The games you play
Dirty magic stuff
I should know better than to think I'd reach inside her
It's all a cloudy kind of daze
She's not so sweet today
She mocks me, I'm no fighter
It all just seems like such a waste
Go on and pull the shades
Razor blades
You're so tragic
Go on, I hate you so
But love you more
I'm so elastic
Of all the things you say
The games you play
Dirty magic stuff
It's oversimplified
It's oversimplified
It's oversimplified
Go on and pull the shades
Razor blades
You're so tragic
Go on, I hate you so
But love you more
I'm so elastic
Of all the things you say
The games you play
Dirty magic stuff

I've recently ran across Sleep Token.  Not really a specific track by them, it seems to me that the majority of their catalog has connotations to being in a relationship with a BPD.

I've always thought Nick Cave's "When I first came to town" is not really about becoming disillusioned with places, but a rough and fascinating, almost opera-like song about a guy who feels like he's doomed to meet BPD types only, and in time has become fearful and hate-filled.


When I first came to town
All the people gathered round
They bought me drinks
Oh Lord, how they quickly changed their tune

When I first came to town
People took me round from end to end
Like someone may take around a friend
Oh how quickly they changed their tune

Suspicion and dark murmurs surround me
Everywhere I go they confound me
As though the blood on my hands
Is there for every citizen to see

Oh sweet Jesus
There is no turning back
There is always one more town
A little further down the track

And from my window, across the tracks
I watch the juicers burn their fires
And in that light
Their faces leer at me
How I wish they'd just let me be

When I first came to town
Their favors were for free
Now even the doors of the whores of this town
Are closed to me

I search the mirror
And I try to see
I search the mirror
And I try to see
Why the people of this town
Have washed their hands of me

Oh sweet Jesus
There is no turning back
There is always one more town
A little further down the track

Oh lord, every goddamn turn I take
I fear the noose, and I fear the stake
For there ain't a bone
They did not break
In all the towns I've been before

Well those that sin against me are snuffed out
I know that from every day that I live
Goddamn the day that I was born
The night that forced me from the womb
And goddamn this town
For I am leaving now
But one day I will return
And the people of this town will surely see
Just how quickly the tables turn

Oh sweet Jesus
This really is the end
There is always one more town
A little further round the bend

Turning Tables by Adele from loved one’s POV
She’s Got Issues by The Offspring loved one’s POV
Please Don’t Leave Me by Pink pw BPD’s POV