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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Tattered Heart on September 25, 2017, 09:08:54 AM



Title: FaceBook meltdown - will I be the next target?
Post by: Tattered Heart on September 25, 2017, 09:08:54 AM
So my H had a meltdown on FB this weekend. He got soo upset by all the people posting about Kaepernick, or whatever his name is. We don't even watch football so I don't know why he was getting so mad about it. He was ranting about the people who were pro-kneeling and anti-kneeling. He started cussing and becoming abusive to people that posted about it. I was pretty mortified and embarrassed about it, but I kept reminding myself that what he does is not my responsibility and is not a reflection of me.

The tension just kept building until this morning when he cussed out his best friend on FB. He deleted his brother-in-law and my uncle. I woke up to him in the bathroom yelling about NASCAR now becoming political. He went on another FB rant. Said he was going to delete FB (he has been threatening that for 2 years).

He has been stress texting me all morning about FB. But then about 10 min ago, he finally did it. He de-activiated his account and removed the app from his phone. I feel a huge sense of relief. For the most part I blocked him from almost all of my FB activity because the slightest things just set him off. FB created intense stress for him.

So now I have to do things to protect myself from his verbal assaults that will happen with his new found freedom from facebook.

1. I changed my password and made sure I logged off of all devices. He will now probably be more tempted to get onto my FB to check up on me.
2. Do not accept friend requests from people I don't know just in case he tries to be devious.
3. Minimize my FB usage in front of him. One of his biggest fears is that I will choose FB over him, which means that I will only check it a couple times in the evening instead of being on there all evening long (Which will probably be pretty good for me)
4. Mentally prepare myself for his demands that I get off FB completely too.


Title: Re: I feel just a little bit lighter after H deletes FB
Post by: I_Am_The_Fire on September 25, 2017, 09:48:03 AM
All of this sounds just like my uexBPDh. I feel for you. I also wouldn't be surprised if he turned FB back on without telling you or created a new account you don't know about. My ex couldn't help himself. It seemed he "had" to know.


Title: Re: FaceBook meltdown - will I be the next target?
Post by: Tattered Heart on September 25, 2017, 01:00:21 PM
Thankfully my H doesn't lie much. It's one of the things he despises. And when he does lie, he is terrible at it.