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Title: I am so tired of being accused of being a smart ass and having an attitude. Post by: Wonderland2017 on September 26, 2017, 07:00:52 PM I communicate how I feel and what I feel. I have relatively positive self esteem. When I don't like something,I say so.
I can take it as well as dish it. But I think T does a lot of gaslighting. When he does, I call him on it. He gets mad. I do have a wall I put up. But trust isn't advisable when talkking to someone who hugs and kisses one minute and 30 seconds later is swinging an emotional machete. Strange, but I am more comfortable with the machete. At least I know to duck. It's the hugs and kisses that scare me. And make me so sad. Title: Re: I am so tired of being accused of being a smart ass and having an attitude. Post by: JoeBPD81 on September 27, 2017, 05:47:10 AM Hi Alice2017 *welcome*
I'm sorry you can't trust your partner and you get accused of things. Of course it is tiring. How long have you been in this relationship? Is he diagnosed as having BPD? Have you been reading about it? What are your goals here? I'm sorry for the battery of questions, I just don't know anything about your situation in order to offer some support. Everything you say sounds so familiar, and it keeps you off balance and sad. Learning about new tools of comunication and understanding BPD can improve things a lot. Specially, we can change things so WE feel better, while at the same time we make things safer and more comfortable for our loved ones. Best of luck. Title: Re: I am so tired of being accused of being a smart ass and having an attitude. Post by: Skip on September 27, 2017, 06:33:27 AM Tell us a little more. :)
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