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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: cruising on January 16, 2019, 02:55:40 PM



Title: After 16 days she contacted me
Post by: cruising on January 16, 2019, 02:55:40 PM
So today I got a phone call from a “No caller ID”. I didn’t know who it was but I was very curious so I had to answer it. I had no idea that it was gonna be my ex who blocked me from everywhere 16 days ago. I asked her why is she’s calling me and she said because she had butterflies in her stomach. Not sure what that meant.
She also said Kingdom Hearts 3 won’t be the same. (Kingdom Hearts 3 is a video game that we’ve been waiting for years to come out and it comes out in 13 days” afterwards she started asking me a couple of questions. “Are you with someone new?”
“What are you doing?” Where are you?” “How have you been?” I was a bit bitter on this phone call after what dahe did to me and she agreed that the way she broke up with me wasn’t the best way to do it.
But after I answered all those questions she said that she shouldn’t have called and hung up. But then she rang me back 5 minutes later asking me the same questions again. But this time when she asked “Have you been with anyone else?” I responded with “None of your business.” (Even though I haven’t been)
Then I said I gotta go. Just to show her I have better things to do than be on the phone to her.

She blocked me on everywhere yet she’s the one who contacted me. Does anyone have any idea what this means? What should I expect next? I never expected to be contacted by a BPD ex girlfriend. I’m very angry at myself for picking up the phone.


Title: Re: After 16 days she contacted me
Post by: Harri on January 16, 2019, 04:25:56 PM
Sometimes pwBPD will reach out again after a breakup.  Sometimes they want to get back together and sometimes they want to know if you are still willing to talk.  It is hard to say.

What do you want?  Do you want to get back together or not?


Title: Re: After 16 days she contacted me
Post by: cruising on January 16, 2019, 04:35:46 PM
Sometimes pwBPD will reach out again after a breakup.  Sometimes they want to get back together and sometimes they want to know if you are still willing to talk.  It is hard to say.

What do you want?  Do you want to get back together or not?

I’m honestly not so sure. I’ve been doing quite alright. I’ve been eating healthy and exercising daily just trying to get my confidence back. I’m more focused on that at the moment. I just feel like I’ve taken a step back during my healing process cause I honestly thought I’d never hear from her again.


Title: Re: After 16 days she contacted me
Post by: Harri on January 16, 2019, 04:38:08 PM
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I just feel like I’ve taken a step back during my healing process cause I honestly thought I’d never hear from her again.
How so?  The step back I mean? 


Title: Re: After 16 days she contacted me
Post by: cruising on January 16, 2019, 04:42:12 PM
How so?  The step back I mean? 

I mean I was finally accepting the fact that we were broken up. Getting on with life, not being in denial anymore. But now that she reappeared it feels like I’m back to square one thinking things like “Maybe there’s a chance after all”. Even though there might not be any chance because I have no clue what her intentions for calling me were for.