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Title: Resentment growing for 4 more decades (or less I hope) Post by: 1238098d on October 07, 2019, 03:40:07 PM I'm concerned.
My SO has BPD, and we have children. My resentment for her grows weekly. It's difficult to work around her now, and probably worse in divorce. I'm not pursuing divorce right now. I'm not perfect, and I'm worried about what my negative thoughts might become in a few more decades. At worst my problems won't end for for about four decades. S.O. pretends perfection in case you were wondering. She'll have a pretty negative effect on our children and their children until then, and likely beyond. Counselor says study forgiveness. I wonder if I should pay him. Title: Re: Resentment growing for 4 more decades (or less I hope) Post by: Radcliff on October 09, 2019, 01:12:17 AM *welcome*
Can you tell us a little more about your situation? How old are your kids? What behaviors of your SO are the most difficult for you? RC Title: Re: Resentment growing for 4 more decades (or less I hope) Post by: 1238098d on October 17, 2019, 05:29:27 PM The most difficult thing is that I can't trust her to be normal or I can trust she will have strange paranoid fears that cause her to do damaging things to our kids like isolate them from friends and family. The most difficult thing is that this happens over and over. It's difficult for me to see mothers who really care for their kids. It's difficult when other women are kind to me. This also happens over and over.
Kids are all under 13 and youngest is 2. Title: Re: Resentment growing for 4 more decades (or less I hope) Post by: Radcliff on October 20, 2019, 01:12:53 AM I'm sorry to hear that you're seeing unhealthy behavior with respect to your kids. How are your relationships with your kids? Are you able to have strong relationships with them? Does she interfere, stand back, or support your relationships with the kids?
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