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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: BobsBurger on October 09, 2019, 09:23:08 AM



Title: New baby
Post by: BobsBurger on October 09, 2019, 09:23:08 AM
So turns out drunk me eventually succumbs to Facebook stalking...It took 18months for it to happen but here we are.

She unfriended me I guess although I'm not the best at knowing how Facebook works but there's no hiding her profile picture which is her holding her new baby.

I'm not totally sure why it hurts. I guess it's a solid sign of the fact I've been trying to move on and suppress my sadness for so long but never actually moved on. Deep down I somehow still wanted her to decide she'd made a horrible mistake and come back. But meanwhile she's moved on with her life and it turns out all my trying to get through each day and move on was really me waiting...and the rediculous dreams I was trying to suppress are shattered again. The life I wanted with her hapenned without me


Title: Re: New baby
Post by: Lucky Jim on October 09, 2019, 09:39:14 AM
Hey Bobsburger, I'm sure it doesn't feel good right now, but from my perspective your discovery may be helpful in the sense that it provides a clear statement that things are over and she has moved on, which in turn will help you to move on.  It's a painful process, I know, yet leads to greater happiness, which is what it's all about, right?  At some point, I predict you will be grateful to have parted ways.

LuckyJim



Title: Re: New baby
Post by: BobsBurger on October 09, 2019, 10:09:33 AM
it provides a clear statement that things are over and she has moved on, which in turn will help you to move on.

Hey LuckyJim, I know you're right and hopefully this will be a turning point. It kind of has to be


Title: Re: New baby
Post by: Lucky Jim on October 09, 2019, 11:13:55 AM
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hopefully this will be a turning point. It kind of has to be

Hey Bobsburger, Right, it's time to let go.  Maybe, on some level, you are breathing a sigh of relief.  It hurts, I know, but frees you up from a holding pattern.

LJ