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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: Spacebar on October 09, 2019, 11:13:11 AM



Title: Help with boundaries
Post by: Spacebar on October 09, 2019, 11:13:11 AM
I am I the worst need for help. My ex is not diagnosed with bpd but I have been told by more than one therapist that I have seen she is classic borderline. The manipulation has just gone WAY to far. She has lied her way into getting a restraining order against me in order to gain custody of our daughter we have together all with the ultimate plan to take our daughter to a new city. I have moved on to a new relationship and don’t want to move. My new girlfriend feels like sometimes I slip on boundaries with my ex. And can hardly tell what’s what anymore. I would really like to find a support group near me.


Title: Re: Help with boundaries
Post by: livednlearned on October 09, 2019, 01:01:32 PM
What kind of custody arrangement is currently in place? Are you not able to see your daughter right now?

Boundaries are/were hard for a lot of us here. People with BPD tend to have no boundaries and partners tend to have weak boundaries. What are some of the boundary issues your girlfriend thinks you have?

Glad you found the site. It's rough to go this stuff alone.