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Title: Children Post by: AslanAron7 on March 24, 2020, 05:17:33 AM Hi,
I am New here. I just moved out från a relationstips with my husband. We have three children together, aged 12,16,18. The middle son have been bullors for many years in school, and now he is Staying with his dad. His dad (my husband, have not divorsed yet) wants to make the son a ”mini me” of himself, and tells him things about me like he vant Stay with me because I want help him study and then his school and graders will break down... I am from Sweden and I have friends and a terapeut I talk too. But just wanted to join you since support från others in simulator situations are unvaluable... Title: Re: Children Post by: livednlearned on March 26, 2020, 10:16:47 AM Hello AslanAron7,
Welcome and hello. What kind of relationship does your son have with his dad? It's worrying that he was being bullied at school, and is now staying with his dad (also a bully). It also sounds like some parental alienation has begun, where your husband tries to turn your child against you. Does that sound likely? Title: Re: Children Post by: Radcliff on April 04, 2020, 12:47:46 AM *welcome*
I'm sorry to hear that you are headed for divorce, but am glad you've taken the action you need to be in a healthy place. It's tough, because you can't have a conversation with your son telling him that things are not true -- that just makes you seem defensive. The best thing to do is the opposite of what your husband is saying. For example, stay informed about his schoolwork and be ready to help him. Tell us about your other two children. How are things going with them? RC |