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Title: Help dealing with a BPD ex Post by: TalulahCA on May 24, 2020, 07:55:17 AM Hi friends, I am divorced from a BPD who abandoned me and our kids one day for a new partner. I went NC as best I could. He saw our kids for a while and suddenly stopped seeing them a few years ago. I never chased him nor did I look at his social media. I went to counseling, got my kids into counseling and carved out a happy life. I have much to be thankful for. Years have gone by and recently my ex filed to lower the child support (fired for “poor judgement”) he is required to send (told me he would not send a dime if he did not have to). He then dropped the request but not before lawyers fees wracked up. Then recently he sent a note about sending support during COVID to my home (with stationary that had his address and his wife’s name) claiming his internet is down (he sent the note 11 days before support was due and then sent an email to follow up). Before this, I did not know even where he lived. My friend investigated In case he files another court request and said his wife was my replacement and he stopped visitation the month they got married. The replacement’s social media shows a very depressed person with low self esteem, a mediocre job, renting a trailer. She said she was dead inside before he saved her). The truth helped me to see who he really is when I am not propping him up but I find it SO frustrating that he gets to poke when it suits him. He picked this road, keep walking. I am working on it not mattering to me and not disrupting my life but we all have some PTSD from these horribly disordered people. They pop up like snakes in the grass. Anyone found a good strategy or thought process that might help?
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