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Title: First post, he explodes now and then and it is out of the blue. Post by: Aisley on July 12, 2020, 10:21:31 AM My husband, I believe, has bpd. he had a bad childhood of abuse and abandonment. He is fine a lot of the time. But he explodes now and then and it is out of the blue. Always with anger.
I am here to see if there are others with this and how I can learn how to deal with it. Title: Re: First post Post by: Football2000 on July 12, 2020, 11:47:42 AM With my partner, the episodes of anger are always triggered by something. It may or may not be something I did. Sometimes I can feel a huge amount of frustration building up over something. It's not just random either, there seems to be specific trigger content involved. Certain topics or tasks are especially sensitive. If you look back over your husband's anger, perhaps there are specific types of tasks or topics that trigger this anger?
My personal strategy has become validating my partner's emotions as best as I can and taking a time out when I need to. I will be honest though and say that doesn't always work. Sometimes I do get defensive which makes things worse, and even when I don't, things deteriorate. Title: Re: First post, he explodes now and then and it is out of the blue. Post by: Harri on July 13, 2020, 12:55:56 AM Hi! I want to join Football in saying welcome!
Can you tell us more about how your husband explodes? How long does it last? Is he able to calm down and then are you able to sit and talk? |