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A couple of years ago I read about BPD. At that moment my ex-partner and I (we recently broke up) were going through what could be described as hell in our relationship.  

Somehow I read about BPDs and notices immediately that she had several BPD traits, but what amazes me now is that I just realized that I myself might have some BPD traits and most certainly became co-dependent.

I did therapy and so did she on her behalf, which helped a lot, but we still got to a point where we broke up (it was actually her decision, but I believe it is for the best also, in spite of the terrible pain I feel). We have a six year-old son, who is doing well in spite of the separation. I believe we are taking this time to heal and I see some of the old co-dependent and BPD patterns fading from both of us and our way to relate to each other, with our son, and with other people.

I just wanted to share this as it is important for me to do so, it helps me gain clarity on the situation.

I really hope we can get back together with her, with all the necessary changes to make it a healthy relationship, without the dysfunctional BPD, co-dependent mechanisms, as we really love each other beyond all the deficiencies each of us feels we have.

I thank all of you in this blog and page as it helped us a lot!

Hey 78, Welcome!  What makes you think your Ex has BPD?  Fill us in when you get a chance.  What do you mean when you say you hope to get back together "without the dysfunctional BPD"?   Is it fair to say that you are hoping for a recycle?  If so, plenty of us have done it, only to wind up in the same place further down the line, except with more pain.

LuckyJim