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Title: Does the pwBPD go through these same 5 stages of detachment Post by: WorriedHusband on November 06, 2020, 01:50:31 PM Acknowledgment- we begin by acknowledging and working with our feelings. Self-Inquiry- we then probe the feelings - it's important to find a way to explore your feelings that allows you both to be present with them and to stand a little aside from them. Processing- become aware of what has been useful in the journey you've just taken, regardless of how it all turned out. Creative Action- start something new with real enthusiasm for the doing of it, rather than out of the need to prove something. Freedom - the stage when thinking about your loss (or the thing you desire) doesn't interfere with your normal feelings of well-being. does the pwBPD go through these same 5 stages of detachment? Title: Re: Does the pwBPD go through these same 5 stages of detachment Post by: once removed on November 11, 2020, 12:02:42 AM think of the stages of detachment kind of like the 12 steps. theyre a healing platform. theyre a way to gauge where you are at in your detaching process, and what to shoot for.
to answer your question, bpd involves a set of maladaptive coping skills. im generalizing here, but that, necessarily, entails not "healing" from things in the healthiest of ways. that might include blame shifting, it might include denial, it might include abusing substances to cope or other forms of escapism, it might include a rebound romance, etc. the truth is, many people, of all stripes, dont make it through the five stages of detachment; they employ old, maladaptive ways of coping. the goal of the five stages is really to learn new, healthier ways of coping. |