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Title: First post Post by: Dad1973 on November 15, 2020, 07:53:48 PM Hello, our daughter has BPD and as she turns 18 we are struggling setting those boundaries that are so needed. It’s been a long road and was hoping this is a place to gain perspective.
Title: Re: First post Post by: Swimmy55 on November 15, 2020, 09:50:57 PM Welcome- you are among kindred spirits here.
Is your daughter compliant with therapy and accepts her diagnosis? Here is a link in this form to an overview for making boundaries:https://bpdfamily.com/content/setting-boundaries Not sure which of her behaviors are of concern, please write /share more as you are able. The thing to remember about boundaries are they are for us/ the rest of the family as much as they are for her. They also must have a consequence you are comfortable to stick with. Please take a look around this forum . There is also a library of recommended book reads. "Stop Walking on Eggshells" is a popular book. Title: Re: First post Post by: NorthernMom on November 17, 2020, 10:29:45 AM Hi there,
Our daughter is also just turning 18 and though has not been diagnosed with BPD, the behaviours and traits are bang on and have been progressing over time (which we didn't recognize until hindsight set in). I don't need a diagnosis to reach out and learn how to have a new type of relationship and plot a plan for a different future with her. She doesn't live with us at the moment (at university in residence for now) which is probably best for all of us, but the rollercoaster still exists and I am eagerly trying to absorb and learn how to parent in this space. Please share and let's help one another. |