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I have a lot of rough up and downs just on an emotional rollercoaster with my ex & I still care for her deeply and do want to fight for her and us even if she doesn't feel the same at the moment, my mind tells me to give it up already and walk away but my heart tells me to keep fighting even if it's hard .. I love everything about her even the things I don't like and can't stand and that's what my definition of true love like I know how much of a cliché it sounds "for better or worse, and in sickness and health" but true love doesn't die even when things are hard and I want insight on BPD and what I can do to keep fighting for such a beautiful soul who doesn't think they're worth loving.

welcome, friend.

you sound exhausted.

tell us more about your relationship and whats going on. how long have the two of you been together? when did the major problems set in?

are you currently broken up?

I am exhausted mentally & I know I'm not the one with the disorder and I'm not trying to make it about me .. but I matter too not just her and I just wish she would understand why I get upset but it makes me upset because I don't think the way she does, I'm not wired the way she is and I just wish I could understand why she says the hurtful things she does sometimes because when she's in a "mood" I tell myself that I know she doesn't mean it and that's not the person I fell in love with but BPD isn't what makes her that person even if she does have it.

i hate to break it to you: it is the person you fell in love with.

if you choose the path of loving someone with borderline personality disorder, it is a hard truth that will confront you again and again, until you accept it.

only then can you make the chances necessary to get your relationship on a better, healthier trajectory.

if you are going to pursue this relationship, do so with eyes wide open. know that while things can improve, its a difficult path.

this is a great place to start: https://www.bpdfamily.com/content/what-does-it-take-be-relationship