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Title: New here Post by: HobeSoundHopeful on March 01, 2021, 09:21:11 AM Hi all. I'm new here. Trying to navigate these tumultuous waters. My Love has BPD and our relationship is on the rocks. I have reached my breaking point. I want to learn how to not make things worse, and how I can also live true to myself. I am in recovery (alcoholism), and have worked very hard to overcome my codependent tendencies. My recovery has been based on "tough love" and no BS, which is how I approach my SO (he is also in and out of The Rooms, but has now decided that AA isn't for him - even though two weeks ago he missed it). I don't want to make things worse. But I don't want to be an enabler. And I am struggling finding that middle ground. I am also struggling not taking things personally . . . this gaping wound in my heart is making it difficult to lead with love and I find myself shutting down and shutting out my SO. His small efforts at reconciliation seem so meaningless, although I suspect those efforts feel huge on his part.
Title: Re: New here Post by: Cat Familiar on March 01, 2021, 10:24:35 AM These relationships are difficult. You’re absolutely right that it takes a fine amount of balance to not enable and not be personally impacted by BPD behaviors. Here’s an overview that might be helpful: https://bpdfamily.com/content/what-does-it-take-be-relationship
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