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Title: SET Method
Post by: Jane534 on October 11, 2022, 09:23:31 AM
Hello!  I work with adults that are on the spectrum and have BPD.  I want to master the SET method so that I can train teams...is there an online training that might be available? 


Title: Re: SET Method
Post by: PearlsBefore on October 11, 2022, 10:43:37 AM
Hi, glad you found your way here; technically the thread is in the incorrect subforum (this is more for technical website issues) so will be moved, and then the URL will change and a new one provided...don't be surprised, it may look like it's been deleted but it hasn't, just moved.

That said, I didn't instantly recognise SET - but google-fu shows https://peoplepsych.com/support-empathy-truth-set-for-borderline-personality/ which says "SET stands for SUPPORT, EMPATHY, and TRUTH. It was developed by Jerold J. Kreisman, MD, and Hal Straus, the authors of I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me and Sometimes I Act Crazy." Technically I wasn't a large fan of that book-set as I found them overly conciliatory - and while the pwBPD who gave them to me was a fan of the "flattering" description of techniques, etc - they didn't seem to actually work. That said, of course every case is slightly different - so I'm not saying it's a bad system, just that in my experience the Kreisman/Straus methods were a little too feel-good.  Then again, I'm also a relatively strong critic of Marsha Linehan - so maybe I'm just overly critical. (I criticise Kreger's lack of depth in writing, but her actual analysis of BPD seems legit).

Personally I'll always ship/cheer Kernberg and Lawson as the best insights without pulling any punches, though it may be that I lean towards the Austrian school as the methods are more Freudian (in the real sense, not the "do yoga and picture yourself as a lotus flower emerging while you're in your mother's bed" sense that one professional in our family's life has recently attempted to my strong condemnation).


Title: Re: SET Method
Post by: Jane534 on October 11, 2022, 11:02:43 AM
Thank you for your input.  My job is a bit different...I am an LCSW...but I work more on the behavioral/training side of things.  We support adults with complex mental health needs, but also have a diagnosis of intellectual disabilities and/or autism.  It is so hard to find good resources for my cases.  The SET method might help my clients feel "heard".  Any resources that you can recommend is really apprectiated!


Title: Re: SET Method
Post by: Turkish on October 11, 2022, 09:12:48 PM
We have plenty of material here.

Top level article from the TIPS green pull down at the top of the board: https://bpdfamily.com/content/ending-conflict

Click on the READ MORE link at the end for an in depth discussion.

We have over a decade of material on this board:

 Library: Tools and skills workshops (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=36.0)


Title: Re: SET Method
Post by: SinisterComplex on October 12, 2022, 09:41:28 PM
Hello!  I work with adults that are on the spectrum and have BPD.  I want to master the SET method so that I can train teams...is there an online training that might be available? 

Just to add on...

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=143695.0

Cheers and best wishes!

-SC-