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Let’s say a quite bpd girl is into me.

If I am clear that I want a non-comittal relationship with her, what do you think are the chances that it could work out? By this I mean no moving in together, no future, no marriage, no exclusivity,  no vacations..just pure romance, the initial phase with no responsibilities.

Of course she’ll get more attached and will want exclusivity. But if she agrees, we could have a long term non-comittal relationship where I don’t abandon her unless she wants to. Is this possible?

If you are attracted to flames of passion, you will eventually get burned.

Are you describing a 'friends with benefits' type situation?  If yes, I would suggest getting a 'Tinder' friend if you want that kind of relationship. 

If she is a true borderline, she will likely feel intense emotion from the connection to you, and everything that you said 'no' to -- she will test those boundaries.

Having had a similar scenario, the outcome was not good. He is a treated person with BpD. I am poly with a different primary partner. We defined very clear boundaries. I educated my self on BpD before we started the r/s. However I still got burnt. Even now I am processing the emotional trauma. He self identified as quiet BpD, has a diagnosis and intensive treatment. He seemed very self aware. Nothing will prepare you for the mind games that BpD triggers in the sufferer. If I could go back in time I would plead with my self not to have that r/s. It affected my self esteem very negatively and has caused me so much confusion and hurt.