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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: quirkyduck on March 08, 2023, 08:07:42 PM



Title: First steps
Post by: quirkyduck on March 08, 2023, 08:07:42 PM
Hello.  Just taking a first step here in trying to recover from what I think is finally the end of a 2 year relationship with my ex girlfriend who is on the BPD spectrum.  Pretty sure I just received the “final discard” and am Just trying to understand, heal, and move forward. 


Title: Re: First steps
Post by: capecodling on March 08, 2023, 10:06:22 PM
There are some good resources linked right above that suggest starting points.  I found it quite helpful to read other people’s experiences and then start taking action to heal myself, things like: exercise, therapy, good diet, meditation, breath-work, supplements, etc.


Title: Re: First steps
Post by: brighter future on March 09, 2023, 11:01:29 AM
Welcome to the forum. This is a very good place for you to be.  I'm very sorry to hear that you are going through this. Feel free to reach out and tell us more about your situation when you feel up to it.

Nearly 3 years ago, I was where you are at now after being abruptly discarded from a relationship  that lasted for almost two years. All in all, it took me nearly a year to recover from the aftermath. It was one of the hardest time periods in my life, and I am in my mid 40's.  This forum and weekly counseling sessions helped get me back on track. The forum was great for me because I was amongst people that had experienced many of the same things that I did in their own relationships. Most could relate to my situation, when the counselor really couldn't put herself in my shoes.


Hang in there and take care of yourself.