1. What changes in behavior have you made or recognize you would like to make? and 2. If you've made changes, what are they and what has been the result?
I've recognized I needed to approach the world differently. It was always from the waiting for catastrophe to strike mindset. I wanted to start approaching life from a more relaxed go with it perspective. I started with a workbook on PTSD www.amazon.com/PTSD-Workbook-Effective-Techniques-Overcoming/dp/1572242825/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1305735305&sr=8-1
Then I read a lot of books on anxiety and also on Buddhist philosophy. This workbook on anxiety was a huge help for me: www.amazon.com/Mindfulness-Acceptance-Workbook-Anxiety-Commitment/dp/1572244992
I also read Buddhism without Beliefs www.amazon.com/Buddhism-Without-Beliefs-Contemporary-Awakening/dp/1573226564/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1305734100&sr=1-1
and I listened to a lot of talks and guided meditations by Gil Fronsdal at Audio Darhma www.audiodharma.org/teacher/1/
I still struggle with switching into crisis mode. But I notice it sooner now and take a step back to take a breath and gain some perspective. In general I feel more at ease. I have less headaches, stomach problems, and I sleep better
I also wanted to change the way I interact with people. I tend to try to mind read. Always trying to figure out what they are really thinking and feeling. I often feel like people are harshly criticizing me for everything. The mindfulness stuff seems to help with that too. I'm working hard on letting go of those kind of concerns. Intellectually I know I can't control what other people think or feel and worrying about it doesn't do me any good. A little progress at a time. I am having more meaningful interactions with people and I think its because I'm more plugged into the conversation.
3. Have you learned new skills, like "assertiveness, listening, communication, decision-making, negotiation, conflict resolution and leadership"? Share your experience. What tools (books, courses, therapy, other) have helped you learn and apply these skills?
Concerning communication I watched videos on youtube about validation and communication. I read about assertive communication and other communication techniques. I still feel pretty rough here. I'm reading How to Communicate
at the moment www.search.barnesandnoble.com/How-To-Communicate/Matthew-McKay/e/9781567316513
I still struggle with communication. I often felt like I had to struggle to get any words in edge wise growing up and now I tend to feel like I have to hurry up and say what I want to or nobody will be available to listen. I think as I build a stronger social network that will help too.
I do a lot of internet surfing regarding the rest. I try to pick up skills here and there. I watch others negotiate problems too.