I keep forgetting: how does it work with disability? Could your dd get her housing paid by that?
My DD struggles so to get qualified for federal benefits, SSI. She has applied 3 times starting at age 19 when she no longer got benefits under my disability benefits. She is appealing and is last stage - the 4th level - in federal district court. Now we just wait for the judge to give his answer. This takes from 9 months to 2 years, it was put in his hands last September. So puzzled by these denials. I believe some of it comes from her refusals to do therapy, to build the documentation with professionals. And of course, this very refusal is a part of the disability So there is very limited funds to her from the county while she waits for the SSI answer.
Housing - very long wait lists for adults without children. Then there is DD's legal history filled with domestic violence incidents - even without arrests. Then there are the actual misdemeanor convictions. So they would no place her in housing, thoug she has many friends in such low income housing who have gotten their SSI. SHe is not able to play by the rules. I can see that many in her homeless group are in this same place - unable to play by the rules to get their needs met. If she can keep from getting any new charges (they base this on arrests, not convictions) for 5 years she can try again. Or if she is truly working on her issues with a professional therapist, they can help her appeal the housing denials - she has to choose to get treatemnt and be honest in treatment.
Choosing treatment may never happen, or be a very long tortuous process for her -- and for her family.
Anyway, I just want to encourage you: you are so dedicated, so caring and loving. Who besides you and your dh has spent so much time, energy and resources trying to help your dd?
Thank you for the encouragement. There are so many here in my same position -- with as much love, care, and frustration willing to give all they can to try and help their troubled kids. So hard to discern what is supportive and what is enabling. What they each can do for themselves and what they need help with. If we did not care so very much, we would not be here to support and care for each other.
And besides that, I just love to talk talk talk -- tell my story. I hope it gives others encouragement too.
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