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« on: June 02, 2013, 05:13:29 PM »

Heya all,

I have not logged onto fb for a while now. I am quite active on social networking world but I refrained from accessing fb as fell prey to my temptation to check my exbf or his wife's profile (both not on my friends list), and end up feeling terrible as I keep finding out something.

Out of respect and fear of complete detachment I did not unfriend exbfs mom. Although I never want to retain her after the way she ignored me when still in r/s guess I sometimes just can't be crude towards anyone no matter how they treat me.

But I have finally decided to remove her. I am scared of finding his engagement or wedding pics of his on her wall. I have struggling to heal and made a slight progress in the last 4 months gradually.

Fear I will breakdown and go back feeling immense pain and agony. But want him out of my head, heart and life completely.

Need some encouragement and push from my ultimate support family -all of you.

Thank you guys!
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« Reply #1 on: June 02, 2013, 05:25:26 PM »

Sounds like the right move... . the kind of thing you will totally look back on in a few months and totally thank yourself for doing.  You're self aware... . identifying what could trigger you to go back... . taking action to avoid that... .   Just follow through and you're onto the next step Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #2 on: June 03, 2013, 02:56:48 AM »

Tordesillas,

Just feeling very nervous and scared to logon to unfriend her. I thought i was gathered the strength and was about time i did that. But can feel the heaviness in my heart and, tmy stomach wrenching eachtime i even type 'facebook' on my browser.
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