9 days NC and guess what...

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Ive been nine days NC and I wont lie it hurts and is difficult. But I just realized I have not had an anxiety attack worrying about her. And memories of the lies and mind games are starting to override the memories of the good. Its tough but we can do this. Giant hug to all of you.

[Whiteytheox72]

Ive been nine days NC and I wont lie it hurts and is difficult. But I just realized I have not had an anxiety attack worrying about her. And memories of the lies and mind games are starting to override the memories of the good. Its tough but we can do this. Giant hug to all of you.

[tim_tom]

Yes i get it too... The minute I think I am heading out of the pit, whammo I get slammed back in. It's very frustrating. I felt better 2 weeks ago, for a 3 day run then I did just this past week when I was distraught

My T gave me a worksheet to fill out, 4 columns... Situations / Triggers | Thoughts | Feelings | Body sensations.

I assume we will be reviewing it and acting on it tomorrow's session.

just want to get better, and get it in my thick head that this is the best for me. She's toxix

[NorthLight]

Good for you my friend :D

Everybody here should share it when things go good too, its such a motivation for the rest of us

[freedom33]

Well done bro.    Keep going!

I have been clean of toxic xgf for 35 days and I can tell you the last few days have been the best I had since the end of the honeymoon period with her about a year ago.

Go out with your male friends, take some vitamins and supplements that can help with mood (e.g. Omega fish oil, 5-HTP), do some gentle exercise, watch a silly movie.

It is difficult to believe it but you won't believe how good life can be after a few months when her toxicity is out of your system.

[willtimeheal]

Way to go whitey.

Mine contacted me the other day. Just sent out a fishing line. I didn't bite. But it pissed me off. I am doing well, getting healthy and my mind is starting to really refocus and then WHAM! She throws out that line and its like day one all over again. Recovery seems faster but it irritates me that they can set you back. Hang in there guys. We can do this.

[kc sunshine]

Yes, hang in there people-- we can do it! Finishing up day 3 NC over here. I'm doing okay except those darn synapses of mine that keep wanting to check to see if she has texted me. I'm going to try to do something else the next 5 times I get the urge to look (push ups?)

[Chasing_Ghosts]

Yes, hang in there people-- we can do it! Finishing up day 3 NC over here. I'm doing okay except those darn synapses of mine that keep wanting to check to see if she has texted me. I'm going to try to do something else the next 5 times I get the urge to look (push ups?)

I totally feel that its like an OCD habit for me at this point.