I don't think it was ever aimed at me, but I was never going to leave this community, I've made too many friends from it, I always told my side of the story but admitted that for this to happen I had to play my part, I made sure never to "sling the mud"
Was the fact the NC caused her to have no option as she might get found out?
Did she leave because well because wanted to go?
Why declare a relationship then clear off to another country?
Some things you just can't figure out on your own, any thoughts... .
You sound like a great guy and you're not going to stoop to someone else's level. The truth has a way of working it's way out. As you say, there are two sides to every story. Don't justify, defend. If you need to explain things, say things only once. Actions speak louder than words.
Those that chose her side will but their not intimate with her. The disorder is triggered by intimacy. They may see strange behaviors but they're not there behind closed doors witnessing the acting out behaviors.
A huge component with BPD is impulsiveness and moving things at the speed of light with a r/s. The incapability of seeing the bigger picture and the moving parts and consequences of her actions. It's self-destructive.
Think shoot first. Aim later.