Me, so called, trying to hit him with my car

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I was on NC with my xBPD for 2 weeks. He broke it off with me over a stupid misunderstanding and went into a heinous rage. Long story short, I changed my number but was so in the FOG I called him several times and finally he picked up. I apologized for something I didn't do and invited him to dinner (on me). So he had me meet him at his fake fathers house and asked me to park and come in to chat with them. I felt out of place because I hadn't spoken to him in weeks so I was already on edge. Well I came in talked with him and his father figure and felt at ease when we left. After we left we couldn't keep our hands off each other and he told me how much he missed me and he "gave all his power away" when he answered my call.  we went out to eat, acted as we were new lovebirds and had a great evening. I shared with him my plans of moving out of state with my job.

Next day he was talking about moving with me and all this other nonsense

I told him I rather move there get settled in then we can revisit this conversation. So he was upset and didn't answer my calls the following day but he sent text throughout the day. The next day he sent me something about an achievementhe rreceived and I congratulated him. Ltr that night he brought up that convo about moving with him and I told him my wishes again. So ltr that night he called while I was asleep around midnight. He started off that he was down and couldn't sleep. Then he said that he told his mom he was moving to another state and she gave her best wishes. Then he gave me his terms and conditions either we go together or never because he will never follow behind a woman. He felt in his mind if he came at a ltr time thus means he following behind a woman and I will try to control him and that will never happen... his immature thinking is so silly to me...

Anyhow he was distant for days. He asked me to come by one day afterwork, when I was around the corner I called him and he had the nerve to say I'm relaxing and don't feel like entertaining anyone right now. what the heck? So he could hear the agitation so he told me to just come on. So we again had a great evening together. Since it was my bday weekend I invited him to a comedy show the next evening.

That morning I asked him if he would mind if we go to the early show because my friend invited me to the theme park the next morning and I really wanted to go. He got so upset and told me why did I change my plans I never consider him. So I agreed to go to the 10:30 show instead to accommodate him.

What a nightmare, not only did he show up late he had the nerve to tell me he made a "conscious" decision to stay to talk to his friends that why he is late. Then he told me he wasn't feeling the mushy stuff so don't touch him or told to hold his hands in public. This is a small city and we may run into ppl we know. I asked so what, what does that mean? He didn't answer. Then he pretended as if he never kissed me a few days ago when we reunited. Told me he doesn't remember that happeningm . The evening ended with him not speaking with me, jumping out my car to hurry and leave me, and me so called trying to hit him with my car when my engine revved. Argghhhhh so upset typing this. Just don't understand his actions. He looked at me in pure hate and I haven't hears from him in 2 days nor have I tried to contact him.

[whythisgirl]

I was on NC with my xBPD for 2 weeks. He broke it off with me over a stupid misunderstanding and went into a heinous rage. Long story short, I changed my number but was so in the FOG I called him several times and finally he picked up. I apologized for something I didn't do and invited him to dinner (on me). So he had me meet him at his fake fathers house and asked me to park and come in to chat with them. I felt out of place because I hadn't spoken to him in weeks so I was already on edge. Well I came in talked with him and his father figure and felt at ease when we left. After we left we couldn't keep our hands off each other and he told me how much he missed me and he "gave all his power away" when he answered my call.  we went out to eat, acted as we were new lovebirds and had a great evening. I shared with him my plans of moving out of state with my job.

Next day he was talking about moving with me and all this other nonsense

I told him I rather move there get settled in then we can revisit this conversation. So he was upset and didn't answer my calls the following day but he sent text throughout the day. The next day he sent me something about an achievementhe rreceived and I congratulated him. Ltr that night he brought up that convo about moving with him and I told him my wishes again. So ltr that night he called while I was asleep around midnight. He started off that he was down and couldn't sleep. Then he said that he told his mom he was moving to another state and she gave her best wishes. Then he gave me his terms and conditions either we go together or never because he will never follow behind a woman. He felt in his mind if he came at a ltr time thus means he following behind a woman and I will try to control him and that will never happen... his immature thinking is so silly to me...

Anyhow he was distant for days. He asked me to come by one day afterwork, when I was around the corner I called him and he had the nerve to say I'm relaxing and don't feel like entertaining anyone right now. what the heck? So he could hear the agitation so he told me to just come on. So we again had a great evening together. Since it was my bday weekend I invited him to a comedy show the next evening.

That morning I asked him if he would mind if we go to the early show because my friend invited me to the theme park the next morning and I really wanted to go. He got so upset and told me why did I change my plans I never consider him. So I agreed to go to the 10:30 show instead to accommodate him.

What a nightmare, not only did he show up late he had the nerve to tell me he made a "conscious" decision to stay to talk to his friends that why he is late. Then he told me he wasn't feeling the mushy stuff so don't touch him or told to hold his hands in public. This is a small city and we may run into ppl we know. I asked so what, what does that mean? He didn't answer. Then he pretended as if he never kissed me a few days ago when we reunited. Told me he doesn't remember that happeningm . The evening ended with him not speaking with me, jumping out my car to hurry and leave me, and me so called trying to hit him with my car when my engine revved. Argghhhhh so upset typing this. Just don't understand his actions. He looked at me in pure hate and I haven't hears from him in 2 days nor have I tried to contact him.

[jammo1989]

Hey Whysthisgirl, Im not a psychologist by any means, but i have done my research so i know a lot, to be honest with you, from what your saying it sounds like hes more more the NPD sort, my ex gf was NPD, i researched and put literally hours into cracking the code, to make things easier for you, I will link you to two extremely helpful people on you tube that have an incredibly powerful insight into Narc behavior.  Id like you to watch a few of the videos ( i will link you to them) and if you feel like oh my god! thats my ex bf thats him all over I can further help you understand his behavior, because if he is indeed a Narc i can certainly tell you why he is acting the way he is.  I will link you to these videos now, if your ex isnt a Narc and is indeed the BPD sort I can also help you understand his actions, remember knowledge is power!

[jammo1989]

40 facts of a narcissist, this will help you determine his behavior if he is indeed an NPD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76g7m7a6exQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWORsyK2HC8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F9otz0xbpVE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWZ4UYVSu2A

you can find the links to the next videos to the right of the video, these videos helped me to understand the NPD behaviour, if he isnt NPD then we will look into and talk more about BPD

Take care

[whythisgirl]

 

40 facts of a narcissist, this will help you determine his behavior if he is indeed an NPD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76g7m7a6exQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWORsyK2HC8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F9otz0xbpVE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWZ4UYVSu2A

you can find the links to the next videos to the right of the video, these videos helped me to understand the NPD behaviour, if he isnt NPD then we will look into and talk more about BPD

Take care

He is 100% narcissists with a cross of BPD. 36 out of the 40 facts describes him perfectly. He is a very tactless individual. He describes himself as crass.   Once before I called him a narcissists and he laughed and said "we are people too. My grandma always calls me that all the time." 

[jammo1989]

40 facts of a narcissist, this will help you determine his behavior if he is indeed an NPD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76g7m7a6exQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWORsyK2HC8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F9otz0xbpVE



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWZ4UYVSu2A

you can find the links to the next videos to the right of the video, these videos helped me to understand the NPD behaviour, if he isnt NPD then we will look into and talk more about BPD

Take care

He is 100% narcissists with a cross of BPD. 36 out of the 40 facts describes him perfectly. He is a very tactless individual. He describes himself as crass.   Once before I called him a narcissists and he laughed and said "we are people too. My grandma always calls me that all the time."  

on in that case why thisgirl, i need you to do exactly what i did ok? there is a very professional author and hes on you tube, i want you to watch all his videos, by the way im not being lazy by doing this he is a professional on Narcissism, in order to fully understand and heal you have to educate yourself i will link you to him now.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWct-0ZynhLuiG0JTp_06wg

he is incredible, he will answer every single question you need, that i promise you, he was my healing process, please watch the videos you feel will help you.

i could tell you the mind of a narcissist until im blue in the face, but this guy will be the savior to all your questions 

[Skip]

there is a very professional author and hes on you tube, i want you to watch all his videos, by the way im not being lazy by doing this he is a professional on Narcissism, in order to fully understand and heal you have to educate yourself i will link you to him now.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWct-0ZynhLuiG0JTp_06wg

I'd be careful of this resource.  This author is a self-professed narcissist speaking of his personal experience - he has no professional training.

Loving the Self Absorbed

Nina Brown, Ed.D.

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN-13: 9781572243545

https://bpdfamily.com/book-reviews/loving-self-absorbed

I'd recommend this resource for a balanced view on people with narcissistic tendencies.  Nina is professionally trained, experienced physiologist and New Harbinger is a solid publisher.

An important premise of this book is that narcissism is not an all or nothing thing - in fact there is a large spectrum of severity. Brown points out that short of the full-blown NPD - there are more subtle shades of "destructive" narcissistic traits. Within these subtle traits are various sub-types.

These insights are very significant as most of us are not dealing with someone suffering from NPD at a clinical level.

Many other books tend to focus on only the most severe NPD conditions.

[whythisgirl]

40 facts of a narcissist, this will help you determine his behavior if he is indeed an NPD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76g7m7a6exQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWORsyK2HC8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F9otz0xbpVE



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWZ4UYVSu2A

you can find the links to the next videos to the right of the video, these videos helped me to understand the NPD behaviour, if he isnt NPD then we will look into and talk more about BPD

Take care

He is 100% narcissists with a cross of BPD. 36 out of the 40 facts describes him perfectly. He is a very tactless individual. He describes himself as crass.   Once before I called him a narcissists and he laughed and said "we are people too. My grandma always calls me that all the time."  

on in that case why thisgirl, i need you to do exactly what i did ok? there is a very professional author and hes on you tube, i want you to watch all his videos, by the way im not being lazy by doing this he is a professional on Narcissism, in order to fully understand and heal you have to educate yourself i will link you to him now.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWct-0ZynhLuiG0JTp_06wg

he is incredible, he will answer every single question you need, that i promise you, he was my healing process, please watch the videos you feel will help you.

i could tell you the mind of a narcissist until im blue in the face, but this guy will be the savior to all your questions 

Thank you! These links have been so helpful! Geesh I have been reading a lot on BPD and now learning a bit more about NPD I really think he suffers from both. But the NPD is the leading disorder. He always talks about having money power and owning his own business. The reality is he is in his 1st yr of college with no job. I'm the one with the grad degree and successful career. He always tries to insult my intelligence while I was the one supporting him and helping him get through a rough path. I guess I was the supply at the time, but once I helped him find a job (I put together his resume and applied for all the jobs on his behalf) he really started to act out. I look forward to learning more. Helps me expedite the grieving stages cause I am pissed off right now. But glad to know that this anger will allow me to ignore him if he tries to reup on this supply.

.

[whythisgirl]

there is a very professional author and hes on you tube, i want you to watch all his videos, by the way im not being lazy by doing this he is a professional on Narcissism, in order to fully understand and heal you have to educate yourself i will link you to him now.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWct-0ZynhLuiG0JTp_06wg

I'd be careful of this resource.  This author is a self-professed narcissist speaking of his personal experience - he has no professional training.

Loving the Self Absorbed

Nina Brown, Ed.D.

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN-13: 9781572243545

https://bpdfamily.com/book-reviews/loving-self-absorbed

I'd recommend this resource for a balanced view on people with narcissistic tendencies.  Nina is professionally trained, experienced physiologist and New Harbinger is a solid publisherwill also n thise of this book is that narcissism is not an all or nothing thing - in fact there is a large spectrum of severity. Brown points out that short of the full-blown NPD - there are more subtle shades of "destructive" narcissistic traits. Within these subtle traits are various sub-types.

These insights are very significant as most of us are not dealing with someone suffering from NPD at a clinical level.

Many other books tend to focus on only the most severe NPD conditions.

Thanks Skip! I will review this resource as well.

[whythisgirl]

Hey Whysthisgirl, Im not a psychologist by any means, but i have done my research so i know a lot, to be honest with you, from what your saying it sounds like hes more more the NPD sort, my ex gf was NPD, i researched and put literally hours into cracking the code, to make things easier for you, I will link you to two extremely helpful people on you tube that have an incredibly powerful insight into Narc behavior.  Id like you to watch a few of the videos ( i will link you to them) and if you feel like oh my god! thats my ex bf thats him all over I can further help you understand his behavior, because if he is indeed a Narc i can certainly tell you why he is acting the way he is.  I will link you to these videos now, if your ex isnt a Narc and is indeed the BPD sort I can also help you understand his actions, remember knowledge is power!

Hi Jammo1989 - I wanted to share this creepy email he sent me 2 weeks ago. I see the narcissism clearly throughout the email.


This is the email:

"You should call me it shouldn't be blocked you should explain yourself you need to speak openly you need to speak totally honest let your truth be heard answer ALL questions asked without going around them... .There needs to be nothing but truth coming out of your mind and mouth... .If that cannot be done no need to even attempt to contact me... .I'll not tolerate anything less than what I've requested... .Ill give you a chance to explain urself tell me your plans I'm not promising anything or a outcome I'm only willing to hear you out... .You crossed the line completely there's no going back from what was said and done... .I DON'T TRUST YOU DON'T THINK I EVER WILL DUE TO THE CIRCUMSTANCES... .We had good times I've tried my best to present myself dreams and hopes of my desired future and was willing to share that with you, you showed me your not willing to join me in that venture and for me that's not acceptable... .I've lived my life to a level or standard that I will not compromise for NOBODY! Things don't make me I've earned everything I've ever had so I don't need you, Your life and past doesn't match my lifestyle or what I'm looking for in a woman to join forces with... .You have qualities I admire and some I despise. If u are able to meet my request you may contact me if not don't even bother... .This needs to be done TODAY OR NEVER AT ALL... .My time or no time at ALL... .I'm the captain of my ship and the master of my destiny you will never control that and you shouldn't try or you'll loose every attempt... .Respect and discipline are my foundation I'll not settle for a person who shows poor nature in character I've gain

And lost more than you know so don't be fooled or try to over step your boundaries because of what you have seen me go through because that's exactly what I've been doing "going through" I'm not a stagnant person or entity I strive for greatness and accomplishments... .That is me I admire and respect confidence and cleanliness anything else is coming up short... .The choice has always been yours you choose to not be humble and disrespectful... .I can't promise I'll be your friend or a person to be in your life I can only promise I'll listen and listen WELL! So speak and make your truth be heard... .All things done in the dark shall always come to light... .I have questions you might not be able to answer so if Your not up for the task don't take the challenge because I will challenge you and call you out on bull___ and in consistency... .Today or never at all... .This is not a request to be with you so let me make that clear as day this is a chance for you to end this encounter on a good foot and move fwd with whatever the outcome may be... .You WILL NOT REUIN MY GREAT NAME NOR DISCREDIT ANYTHING I PRIDE MYSELF ON BEING... .I'm a great man with a great mind,body and soul... .I am too much for you your not enough for me your short comings are never gonna be acceptable so deal with yourself and insecurities before coming or trying to persuade me because you can't... .I'm known for being strong and a go getter not a push over... .I've had beautiful women in my life physically and spiritually and I've left them for short comings because I'm fully confident in my destiny and there's a beautiful place I'm aiming for that includes a woman with a strong mind and knows how to protect me by protecting herself with truth and total honesty that isn't you youve proven that countless times... .I don't respect nor like the qualities you've shown me... .Spending is cheap who are you as a person... .Who are you are your words true can you speak about your experiences with confidence knowing it doesn't make your future or are you going to behave as if that's where your life ends... .The choice is yours not mine... .

God bless you... .Don't respond through txt or email it better be a call and your number better not be blocked and you need to explain why you chose to block it in the first place, If that's too much for you just bow out gracefully because you will loose... .    "

[clydegriffith]

Hmm, it must be a thing with BPDs to make this kind of accusation.

The first of our many breakups came about when i had to call the police on her because she took her rage too far that time. Long story short, she lied about what happened and the police's policy where i live is to arrest both parties in a domestic dispute if they can't tell who the agressor was. We went to court and had cross-orders of protections issued against each other but she told all her friends that he order was issued because i tried to run her over with my car instead of because she was having a rage of epic proportions.

While we're on the subject of cars she did once go into another full blown rage while we were driving on the highway and she cracked my windshiled kicking it with her high heels. It nearly shattered. After that she was threating to jump out of the car and two friends in the backseat had physically restrain her the rest of the ride home. So many bad memories like this. 

[whythisgirl]

Hmm, it must be a thing with BPDs to make this kind of accusation.

The first of our many breakups came about when i had to call the police on her because she took her rage too far that time. Long story short, she lied about what happened and the police's policy where i live is to arrest both parties in a domestic dispute if they can't tell who the agressor was. We went to court and had cross-orders of protections issued against each other but she told all her friends that he order was issued because i tried to run her over with my car instead of because she was having a rage of epic proportions.

While we're on the subject of cars she did once go into another full blown rage while we were driving on the highway and she cracked my windshiled kicking it with her high heels. It nearly shattered. After that she was threating to jump out of the car and two friends in the backseat had physically restrain her the rest of the ride home. So many bad memories like this. 

He truly scares me. The other day he told me that if I crossed him (slept with another man and gave him something) he would come to my house and shoot me execution style. Then he smiled and said only if you gave me AIDS. What the heck! He is a ___ing lunatic. Who says that? For my own safety I figure if someone thinks like that and then thinks I tried to hit him with my car. In his crazy mind he may try to hurt me.

[Mutt]

Hi whythisgirl,

Have you gave thought to a restraining order?

[downwhim]

whythisgirl,

This guy is a real whack job! Demanding, belittling, self absorbed, the list goes on and on. His insecurity rears it's head now and again in this email/text showing he is not the macho man he thinks he is. He does not like you blocking him. He wants full access to rage on you. He wants you to mind like he is the parent.

You can do better. Great job leaving.

[whythisgirl]

Hi whythisgirl,

Have you gave thought to a restraining order?

I have considered. Just trying to stay away from him. He has been showing up at my church so I have stopped going.

[whythisgirl]

whythisgirl,

This guy is a real whack job! Demanding, belittling, self absorbed, the list goes on and on. His insecurity rears it's head now and again in this email/text showing he is not the macho man he thinks he is. He does not like you blocking him. He wants full access to rage on you. He wants you to mind like he is the parent.

You can do better. Great job leaving.

Thanks! He is a whack job! Some of the things that comes out of his mouth is ridiculous. He sent a nice message today but that was prob to wheel me in to stroke his little ego. After our last encounter I need to stay far away from the lunatic.