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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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Author Topic: She was so "Concerned" about me (mental health), and thought I'd hurt myself.  (Read 353 times)
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« on: February 24, 2015, 01:04:25 AM »

In my full story on L3: Recovering... .Entitled "she is ruining my life" there is full context given to my situation, and why I am asking this question.

Projection. My uBPDexgf did this often, we even talked about it sometimes.

Of the 9 symtoms of BPD, one of them is suicidality: behaviors and/or mental

My question is this: Was her constant, as she (and her Mother later) put it "concern about me killing myself), in which she never admitted that she herself was causing my torment (don't worry, i was never suicidal myself), possibly a projection of her own suicidal thoughts? She of course would never admit that, but to me it makes sense. She really might have been the one with these thoughts, but she projected them onto me. Is it plausible?
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« Reply #1 on: February 24, 2015, 01:46:28 AM »

Yes its plausible. It could also be projecting a past partners behaviour or somene she knows onto you. She may worry that you might be suicidal because her ex was for instance. We can remind our exs of others and they can project this. My exgf used to bring up stuff I had never done which I now realise was something her ex had done.
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« Reply #2 on: February 24, 2015, 06:01:44 AM »

Maybe she thinks she is worth you killing yourself for. They do think everything's about them.
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