I want my ex back but dont know what to do?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hi, let me start by saying that I know most of you will tell me to run away and so on! I'm here to say I am not going to do that! any ways my ex and I have been together for about 8 years and yes we had some bad time but nothing to bad until now! I love this guy and I want him back but I don't know how to get him to feel ok around me again its all in his head and I understand that but how can I get him to stop seeing us as bad and get him back again? 

[butterflyheart86]

Hi, let me start by saying that I know most of you will tell me to run away and so on! I'm here to say I am not going to do that! any ways my ex and I have been together for about 8 years and yes we had some bad time but nothing to bad until now! I love this guy and I want him back but I don't know how to get him to feel ok around me again its all in his head and I understand that but how can I get him to stop seeing us as bad and get him back again? 

[EaglesJuju]

Hi butterflyheart86, 

Welcome aboard.

I am sorry that you are going through a tough time.     Eight years is a really long time to be in a relationship. I can imagine how hard and confusing this must be for you. 

What happened that made your relationship bad?

[JRT]

I had a good relationship with mine as well and really wanted to do something to win her back at first (but then decided otherwise later), so I can relate... .but what happened?