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How to communicate after a contentious divorce... Following a contentious divorce and custody battle, there are often high emotion and tensions between the parents. Research shows that constant and chronic conflict between the parents negatively impacts the children. The children sense their parents anxiety in their voice, their body language and their parents behavior. Here are some suggestions from Dean Stacer on how to avoid conflict.
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Author Topic: didn't show up to get kids and that's weird  (Read 418 times)
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« on: June 06, 2015, 01:46:17 PM »

things had been quiet with ex lately, largely because of no big triggers (certain decisions etc will trigger him). he emailed early this week that he'd get the kids at noon for his weekend. still nothing unusual. this morning we waited. and waited. usually he texts if he's 10 min late. i texted him, then called etc. he lives w/parents and i called their house. no answer. called their cell phones. they were off.

called his sibling in a diff state. sibling said he'd check it out.

then sibling texts me, "this is something that will have to be worked out between you and [ex]."

luckily i didn't have any plans this weekend. i texted ex that we are heading out for the day and i assume he's not coming for the weekend.

if he is a mental mess at this point i don't want him showing up. but all seemed fine this week. but he didn't call the kids last night or the night before and he almost always calls each night.

he is high functioning but goes wacky when triggered. but he has never stopped communicating and never failed to show up. the kids are a bit stir crazy cause we waited for him (they are little). we are about to head out on errands.

i may inform our pc. i don't want to impose sanctions becuase if he felt mentally unhealthy i'd rather him just deal with himself. it's TOTALLY FINE for him not to show up, but i am wondering if he got arrested (unlikely) or is in a mental hosp. why not just send a text saying he can't come? he always texts.

this is weird. i do know that sometimes too much calm sometimes can eventually trigger a BPD person. he has other mental health issues too.

wish i had a way to go check out the house (they are an hour away) or see if he's in a mental hospital or what. anything i should do? or just go about my life and hope they're not all hiding something?
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momtara
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« Reply #1 on: June 06, 2015, 08:22:49 PM »

gonna move this to divorce i think cause it can get into legal areas.
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