Thanks for your kind welcome...
She exhibited the following
Frantic efforts to avoid being abandoned ... .I believe she felt I may break up due to the child and cause I was not the type of man she wanted so she began cheating to secure a new object... she went thru 4 men in 4 weeks and clearly the dialling of 2 numbers every 5 min between hours of 1030 pm and 430am indicates she was desperate to secure a new object... the man she finally selected isn't her norm it's just that he by his nature will worship the ground she walks so long has his reward of porn type sex is maintained and he is wealthy making for security that I could not supply.
Unstable personal relationships that alternate between idealization—“I’m so in love!”—and devaluation—“I hate her.” This is also sometimes known as "splitting."
There were times when she would behave as an equal partner showing affection,helping out,and others where she disrespected me terribly her worst being when she got drunk.
Impulsive behaviors that can have dangerous outcomes, such as excessive spending, unsafe sex, substance abuse or reckless driving.
Before me she had at least 9 other partners but I'd say there were many more she never told me about... she never used protection nor the pill so god knows how come she never caught anything or got pregnant .she was an animal in bed very flirtatious in public which I didn't like but I never played the jealous bf perhaps I should have been... I'm her 5th long term Rs
And of course there was the alcohol she loved to drink and she was like another person when drunk very abusive but never physically
Periods of intense depressed mood, irritability or anxiety lasting a few hours to a few days -
This wasn't often nor very long but at times she would act anxious or moody maybe the distress of dealing with kids hatred of me was causing it
Chronic feelings of boredom or emptiness
This was a biggy... she had no hobbies no interests outside of her kids,dog,beach,alcohol and sex what entertainment I was able to provide on my income never seem to satisfy her in later years of our Rs... her new man being wealthy is able to provide constant date nights,holidays,Harley Davidson rides into country she suggested before break I buy a Harley but without her financial help that wasn't possible... .to eliviate my depression I bought that Harley after our break
She showed none of the other symptoms
The first 2 years were the best I've experienced by any woman... she was loving,affectionate,she help sposmadicaly with house work,didn't drink so much,wasn't abusive,she said no one had ever treated her like a princes and I had never felt so loved and wanted during our second year when we moved into my new home she began to be less affectionate less interested in our Rs the kids hatred got worse they hated me and my home many times she suggested I sell up and buy a home they would be comfortable in I regret not givin that a go... her ph records showed in our 2nd year the sexting started some were exes some were new contacts... .in our 3rd year the physical cheating,drinking and abuse started she had checked out by then I knew and nothing I said or did made a difference... few times she was going to move out cause of kids but always changed her mind... our 4th and final year was the worst we were like roommates... I'd been rejected so often I checked out but I could never break up I was so terribly in love with the woman she once was and hoped she would change back when the kids grew.
I miss that woman and feel she may never be replaced not only cause she was beautiful but because she felt like my soul mate.