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« on: January 11, 2017, 01:22:56 AM »

So, my ex called in to work tonight.  That usually means she's not doing too great.  However, everyone says she's like a new person now so who knows why she called in.  I'm still a little suspicious about this guy she may have slept with at work. He also called in tonight. I've been skeptical of him because I know from someone that he cheated on his wife.  The last Tuesday he was wearing a super hero shirt that is her favorite.  He knew her name when he should have no idea what her name is, but it's just a coincidence, right?

 
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« Reply #1 on: January 11, 2017, 03:17:10 AM »

how suspicious are you that she slept with this man?
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« Reply #2 on: January 11, 2017, 03:22:14 AM »

how suspicious are you that she slept with this man?

I would say 60% suspicious because I know I can over think things.
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« Reply #3 on: January 11, 2017, 07:11:49 AM »

That superhero shirt.  Famous character? Or maybe a big movie franchise? With tshirts sold everywhere?  I doubt it's some cryptic message.

 Do the percentages matter?  Are you asking yourself if you really need to know? And what would you do if you knew the truth, either way?
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« Reply #4 on: January 11, 2017, 09:40:31 AM »

Walks like a duck, talks like a duck. I kind of think you are spot on.
I am sorry.
They say BPD's cheat, I didn't think mine did, but I went through the phone bill last night. Nothing too strange at first.
Then I started seeing video message/picture sent at 5:40 am, then 5:42 am, the 5:44 am.
Yeah what kind of pictures or videos are you sending that time of day.

So yes BPD's do cheat, all of them. I was sad for a few minutes then I realized all the things I learned here.
I am lucky she left me. She did me a huge favor. I will have a happy life, she will not.
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« Reply #5 on: January 12, 2017, 03:30:24 AM »



So yes BPD's do cheat, all of them. I was sad for a few minutes then I realized all the things I learned here.
I am lucky she left me. She did me a huge favor. I will have a happy life, she will not.


I am starting to believe I am lucky she left me.  It helps a whole lot thinking that way.  She even knew it was for my best interest too. 

My coworker and I were talking about the guy i think she is sleeping with yesterday about him calling in.  Apparently, his wife is going out of town for vacation or something and then my coworker said "Maybe, he is going to have his side girl over while she is gone." She was just joking, so then I told her "I bet it's my ex." and she says, "She wouldn't go that low." And I gave her a knowing look like she would. She told me I am just overthinking it, but idk.  Then I said "He knows her name." And she gave me a look like, "That's true." And my head is spinning out of control.

I'm hoping she just called in because it was snowing.  I just keep wondering all the things she does differently now. If she is calling in for some guy it makes me sick because she never would have done that for me.

She wanted me to switch my schedule around so that I had Saturdays off to be with her.  The moment I had Saturdays off she decided to go into work more often.  So idk what to think if she is calling in for someone.  Makes me feel pretty crappy. Makes me wonder how much other stuff she is doing for people that she would never do for me.
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« Reply #6 on: January 12, 2017, 11:20:30 AM »

Hi Shedd, I wouldnt be thinking like that... .because she will do all the negative things she did with you as well.

The higher the pedestal the further the fall.
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« Reply #7 on: January 12, 2017, 05:20:00 PM »

Hi Shedd, I wouldnt be thinking like that... .because she will do all the negative things she did with you as well.

I am not so sure about that if she is getting help, and trying whatever she can to get rid of her BPD.  She is constantly going to therapy and has quit drinking.  she became an alcoholic when she was with me.

Seems like I always bring people to change, but not enough to stay with me.  Then they get better for the next person.
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« Reply #8 on: January 13, 2017, 10:50:08 PM »

''I am starting to believe I am lucky she left me.  It helps a whole lot thinking that way.  She even knew it was for my best interest too. ''
 Damn right you're lucky! now don't you forget it!

Write this down on a piece of paper and look at it when time comes.
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