Is there such a thing as a Good Trigger?

[Confused108]

I have a question. I have heard about triggering our ex BPDs in bad ways. Maybe something we do or say might set them off and they either end it with us , or push/ pull etc. . I was wondering if all triggers are bad? A mutual friend of both of ours had contacted me yesterday. She told me that my ex was back on her FB page using Peanuts (Snoopy) emojis etc all over the place. Now I am a huge Peanuts Fan and my ex knows this . She has never used these types of emojis before me. I used them all the time with her when we were together. Now with her using these wouldn't that trigger her about me? Or do they just block people out and just forget that they did these things with their ex? I would think it would be a trigger for her. And if so maybe a happy one? I just find it weird.

[SoMadSoSad]

Here is my 2 cents. When you guys were together you were both enmeshed. When enmeshed maybe some partners carry stuff from the enmeshment into their everyday life even when broken up.

[Confused108]

I do t think my relationship was like that at all with my ex but thanks for ur reply.