No one gets past skin level.

[A or B?]

Intro- Married and separated from BPD/NPD. Feel desperate for reconciliation. He seems satisfied in his own little world. My seven young adult children blame our family disfunction on my choice to separate. Ouch!. Now one daughter (the least critical) has married a guy with Aspergers. They do great. But as I looked it up, I see hubby in the description. But how do I know? He is NOT willing to talk about it, much less be evaluated. Sigh. My nurse sister with a son on the spectrum says my husband is too social to be an Aspie. He is smooth but it is a repetitive front. No one gets past skin level. Ever. I am really hurting right now. As a conservative Christian, I have a strong desire to get through this. I was in a BPD group but one person dominates it, so I just couldn't relate.

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[once removed]

hi A or B and

you mentioned you chose to separate, do i have that right? what led to that point? is your husband diagnosed?

[Mutt]

Hi A or B?,



I’d like to join   once removed and welcome you to the site. Separation is tough and you have a large family.

What behaviours do you see that are BPD/NPD traits?

[Tattered Heart]

Hi A or B?

Welcome . I"m sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time right now. So you were the one to leave the relationship? What happened to lead up to leaving? Do you still see him or spend time with your H?

I can imagine that things have been hard on your children and I can imagine how hurtful it is for all the blame to be placed on you. Did they witness any of the BPD type behavior while they were in the home? It could also be that your pwBPD is trying to win people over to his side. Or growing up in a home with a BPD father, they may not adjust well to change or rocking the boat.

How can we best try to help you today?