It all comes down to personal opinion and viewpoint and how you really define love.
Love begins with a basis of respect, you chose to stand by the person no matter what, no matter how hard it gets. If they don't stay its very simple... THEY NEVER LOVED YOU!
Coming from a relationship of decades, I would say that there was love for a time because it was doable. I adjusted despite the questions in my mind, and we were fine. However, when other factors came into play, it went malignant.
The only way I can make sense of it now is that blaming and destruction went to the forefront, ready to be fired up with provocation. That's indeed not love. Some of it in my case is I believe was biological, but you can't be in a close relationship with someone who is torching the relationship on an ongoing basis. I'll never know if they truly forgot the worst times or were playing me, but there was nothing healthy about what happened.
They have since collaborated with their family to make a profile of me that is contrary to what mutual friends and my counsellors say too. So it's all crazy-making, indeed.