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Quote from: boogs152 on October 15, 2019, 09:10:04 PM
His refusal to begin couples therapy meant that he was less invested in our relationship than I was.
Yes...I would think that's a polite way to say it.
How much was your relationship worth to him? How much were you offering to spend and asking him to spend (not a percentage..but best guess as dollar figure)
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He would be required to spend $50 twice a month initially.
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He keeps asking me to take him back. Saying he will change. I feel so down.
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"I'll discuss the future of our relationship in the last few weeks of your inpatient stay. I'm sure your therapist there can guide us."
This puts the ball back in his court.
What are you saying when he asks you to take him back?
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