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I have a daughter of 34years old with bpd. No matter what I do or say I seem to make things worse. She blames me for every bad episode through something now or in the past. She has hurt all our family members in one way or another and a lot of them have chosen to remove themselves from her life, and in the process mine. I have other children who have been subject to the actions of her behavior and one of my children has cut all ties and another has distanced themself for self preservation, although still has slight contact through me but that I turn seems to trigger episodes. I'm at my wits end .
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Reality check:
Your selfless loving and good intentions in no way made anything worse.
Her actions made things worse.
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I understand totally.
Know that you are not alone. Please read Randi Kreger`s book- The Essential Family Guide to BPD.
Can`t recommend it enough and watch her video . You will learn a lot and feel a little better knowing it is not you.,
Take care of yourself first and foremost.
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