As much as my brain knew the red flags, I still wanted her.
after my ex i got with a gal that was objectively, outwardly bad news. she used those words: "im bad news". i pursued it anyway. it was short lived, and like you, when her attention waned, i really suffered over it.
i think this illustrates that the dating world is about a great deal more than spotting red flags; youre going to encounter lots of these types of women, and other types, in the dating world.
its about making hard, but necessary mental and emotional choices.
its about better knowing ourselves, better understanding others, and better understanding the dating world and our expectations.
its about understanding what our model for what attraction and a healthy relationship look like, and making a concerted effort to gravitate toward another model.