My ex who suffers from bpd broke up with me

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We’ve been together for 3 years recently it appears she’s devalued me. She broke up called our relationship toxic at points out of the blue. But she also stated she wanted to be friends but refused to give me the ring back I had given her as a promise ring. Fast forward a week little she claimed she liked being single. Now after two days she’s texted me saying hi..how are you. And has created a fake Facebook to creep on me. Do you think she’s truly done? Also if I do get back with her I want to know how I can make the relationship better. From what I’ve read stronger enforced boundaries help with actual punishments. Example would be if you start to even text someone else and give guys your number I’m gone. Or if you have a random rage outburst and don’t try to control it I’ll go home for the day. Deep down I do love her. But I need to get her to see a therapist. Demanding she see one isn’t an option so is there ways to guide her in the right direction. I made a promise to not abandon her like everyone else and I won’t. No matter how many headaches it may bring me. Will I completely cut all contact if it’s clear she’ll never change? Yes. I have self respect. So if anyone has tips or guides to help me understand what she’s feeling and how to help her. I’m done walking on eggshells and holding my tongue. I want her to understand if it’s possible the way she acts affects people. Also as we speak she’s now texted me again and called 3 times

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