Assault

[Digger130]

Hi all,
This is my first post. My wife has symptoms of BPD and has recently self detoxed from prescription benzos. I read about empathizing and being tolerant, but all her anger is funneled through me. She will get angry at others, but only after the initial outburst is at me. We've had the police here twice, one of the times because she assaulted me. She was given the option of having a psych evaluation at the local hospital or spend the night in jail, she chose jail. In order to avoid having an assault record, she voluntarily agreed to a diversion program requiring her to enter a psychiatric program and seeing it through. We are now in limbo waiting for her to get into a program, hopefully in-patient but possibly virtual. We can't be in the same space without her coming after me verbally, usually wanting money to buy alcohol. My daughter, T, is the buffer between us currently, as she can calm her down, but she is moving this weekend. I typically walk away and tell my wife I'd be happy to have a conversation but it can't happen when she's agitated and talking at me. She typically will follow me when I walk away and get increasingly agitated. I've had to leave and spend the night in a hotel room because she was so wound up I didn't feel safe. Ideally she would get into an in-patient program and get stabilized, but that could be a few weeks out because of the overload in the system in our area. I'm not sure what to do in the mean time. Any advice or questions to clarify would be welcome.
Thank You

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