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RodgerRabbit
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Married
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« on: November 15, 2020, 09:21:15 AM »

Hello, I believe my wife has BPD.  She has been struggling with it most of her life although she is unaware that it’s BPD.  She does, however, know she has some form of mental problem and normally treats it with anti-D’s.  Since dating it has been a roller coaster.  I recently began reading stop walking on eggshells.  It’s giving great advice but I still find it very difficult to handle my wife’s moods.  When she becomes angry, rude, and demeaning I find it very hard to walk away and not argue.  It makes my blood boil.  I’m just afraid that if I ignore it and don’t let her know my feelings then I will hold resentment for her.  I just need support because I don’t know who to turn to.
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« Reply #1 on: November 22, 2020, 11:01:48 AM »

Hi RodgerRabbit - Welcome to the group.  I too, suspect that my wife may have BDP and know how difficult it is what you are going through.  You'll find many helpful stories that will let you know that you are not alone.

I first told my wife that I felt her behavior is verbally and emotionally abusive about a year ago.  Her response was if I think she is abusive then I need to leave her. She still is not seeking consistent therapy nor is she willing to pursue exploring a diagnosis.  She often claims that I have weaponized therapy against her and that is why she isn't in it. I still haven't built up the courage to leave her and her behavior obviously still hasn't changed. It is very hard to love someone who causes so much hurt and pain.  Avoiding the constant illogical arguments can be extremely hard.
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