Ex Wife let me know my dog died and other missing

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

Hey Guys,

My BPD ex wife texts me out of the blue letting me know my lab / dashund mix is dead. Now he died several weeks ago I was told tonight. She said his ashes were spread in a green area. Not even the decency to let me know earlier. My other dog escaped the house so she said today. I believe she opened the door and sent him on his way.

I’m floored at these developments man. I’m shocked at this.

[Nowisthetime1]

Hey Guys,

My BPD ex wife texts me out of the blue letting me know my lab / dashund mix is dead. Now he died several weeks ago I was told tonight. She said his ashes were spread in a green area. Not even the decency to let me know earlier. My other dog escaped the house so she said today. I believe she opened the door and sent him on his way.

I’m floored at these developments man. I’m shocked at this.

[Websters Mom]

I am so incredibly sorry. There are no words. I will pray for the safety of the one and share in the grief of the other. What a cruel thing for her to have done.

[Nowisthetime1]

Webster’s Mom,

Thanks for the kind words. I really appreciate that.

[Inside]

Seems most BPD behavior is both an invite to re engage, and/ or a back-handed slap to get our attention. 

My BPD ex got a dog, loved dominating him.  Very creepy; she’d stand over him, a leg on either side, as he basically cowered.  She liked it, he didn’t..  What he liked was when I’d visit, taking him on the few wild adventures he’d get.  I actually think she was jealous. 

I miss my former dogs, humans often seem undeserving of their unconditional devotion.  I hope your dog's passing breaks a tie with her, and that the other dog finds a loving home..

[Goosey]

So sorry.
It is what it is.
Don’t give the other the satisfaction of responding to the news.
Ugh.
It will get better.
And as my shrink alway told me. Presume everything I am told is a LIE.
I live by that.