I'll just reintroduce myself.
I've been here before, a very long time ago. My ex-H has a cluster-B disorder, but with a legally enforced NC order for the past 3+ years, his disorder is very rarely my concern anymore. We do share four children, however, and it's becoming more obvious by the day that our eldest is heading toward a BPD diagnosis.
She currently has diagnosed OCD, ODD, GAD, PTSD, anxiety, and depression and is taking appropriate medication but refuses therapy. I'm aware that my past inability to effectively address the abuse in our past home played a major role in this. All I can say to that is that we are now safe, and going forward I'd like to focus on the future and giving her the best chance possible.
For myself, I am in treatment for complex PTSD and DID.
My biggest current concerns for my D16 are that she's self harming, she has no age-appropriate desire to be independent from me, and that she's very quick to B/W thinking and feeling abandoned.