Just Need To Vent (Again)

[paperinkart]

Hi everyone,

Thanks in advance for reading this. I just need a safe space to vent a bit. I’m feeling really stuck and sad and frustrated. I’m so tired of every tiny fight and argument suddenly resulting in a breakup, or near break up, or him getting ready to discard me again- no matter how happy we were 5 minutes before.

Please tell me how this makes sense...I spent all day Sunday driving him to the hospital because we thought he broke his toe. I took his son to the store to buy his mom (my partners ex wife) a nice Mother’s Day gift, then took him over there to drop it off. Then I bought my partner some groceries for lunches because he started a new job on Monday and I didn’t want him to worry about getting food. THEN, I bring him his favourite dinner when I go pick him up again from the ER. Obviously, I’m not holding any of this against him because he was in need and I am always happy to help when I can but then, yesterday evening, HE makes a super in appropriate “joke” that I was really upset by. I got upset and he isn’t really talking to me now.

And now our relationship is a mess again. He was so grateful and thankful to me on Sunday and yesterday morning (before the fight)- telling me how grateful he is for me and how special I am and how thoughtful I am.

And now, he’s barely talking to me because HE crossed the line and I got mad. What the hell.

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[husband97]

I'm so sorry you're feeling/dealing with this. I have just started coming to terms that my udw (did I abbreviate that correctly ha!) of 17 years suffers from this conidition. All I can say is that you are not alone, even though it feels like the most alienating thing on the face of the earth.