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« on: December 24, 2021, 06:30:31 PM »

I don’t know if this is the right place to post this but. My partner’s/ex partner’s(she wants to reconcile)  diagnosis was ‘borderline tendencies’? Has anyone come upon this before? Is this different than Bpd?
 If anyone can shed some light on this for me it is greatly appreciated, thank you
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« Reply #1 on: January 09, 2022, 09:53:16 PM »

Firsttimefather, did she tell you that she received that diagnosis? Or, did the diagnosing professional tell you directly?
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« Reply #2 on: January 10, 2022, 12:06:03 AM »

Thank you for responding, I’m a recent conversation she mentioned that the psychiatrist told her she had borderline tendencies, but never officially diagnosed her. She however owns up to the diagnosis and spoke about her last long term relationships and how those partners dealt with it.
 I do know what I’ve witnessed so far and I believe the diagnosis to definitely be accurate set against all the many, many stories I’ve read here but also the behaviors I have witnessed.
 We are doing well now but I see traces of ‘concern’ for lack of a better term. Reminders of that ‘character’ or ‘traits’.
 She has agreed to work on this with me and our relationship honestly has been better than ever. What I mean by that is we engage in more activities together. She makes a more active effort towards the relationship and checks in on me and my feelings more often. She is jealous and insecure, worried I’m ‘keeping someone on the back burner’ but it’s not rooted in reality. When we discussed this further she admitted it’s just her insecurities. I feel I see her trying and we are definitely more open with our communication.
 I still take it day by day: I try to focus on me as much as possible and feel really good about everything thus far. I don’t expect miracles, I know I can’t change anything regarding her or her diagnosis but I do know it’s there.
 Your question is something I considered and still do: I think she was diagnosed with it personally but she is very intelligent and knows the stigma it carries, however I do see other traits that seem to go against the grain of you will. There is empathy and history of long term relationships that ended in friendships. She does check in on me …
 I’m curious to hear more if your thoughts.
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