Hi Omeros, and welcome.
You've raised a great question -- once we discover that there
is another way... that's great that we
know it, but how do we
do it?
I was actually thinking about the "winner's triangle" when I was out on a run the other day, before seeing your post here. Wondering if you've seen it:
https://bpdfamily.com/content/karpman-drama-triangle(scroll down to the section called "Start Using the Caring Triangle / Winning Triangle")
I've also heard "moving to the middle of the triangle" as "taking a coaching perspective".
Here's an older workshop (last post is from 2020) on Karpman drama triangle dynamics, not sure if you've seen this yet either:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=108440.0Anyway, I also struggle with moving to the middle. My "starting gate position", as author Lynne Forrest terms it (she also works with triangle dynamics here:
https://www.lynneforrest.com/articles/2008/06/the-faces-of-victim/), is probably usually Victim, then sometimes Rescuer, or rarely Persecutor. What about you?