Can't focus

[Think About It...]

These days, often I cannot focus on work.  I find myself thinking about Borderline, borderline, borderline.  I find myself thinking about the tools, what to say, how to handle each situation.

I just cannot focus on my work and need to.  Work should be a good escape away from the illness.

Is this normal?  What can I do to get myself back on track?

[JimNelson89]

These days, often I cannot focus on work.  I find myself thinking about Borderline, borderline, borderline.  I find myself thinking about the tools, what to say, how to handle each situation.

I just cannot focus on my work and need to.  Work should be a good escape away from the illness.

Is this normal?  What can I do to get myself back on track?

[Steph]

 Lots of anxiety, for sure...

 I think what is important to remember is that you arent responsible for your partners illness.

Its on your mind alot, but to help ease your mind, remember that You didnt cause it, cant control it and cannot cure it.

 Also, its helpful so often to have our own therapist. Keeps us balanced and gives us a place to brain dump our stuff, as well.

  Does this help at all?

Steph

[Wrongturn1]

I've been there as well.  It's difficult to function with a very mentally demanding job when all this stuff is so high on one's priority list.  I think BPD, tools, etc. will slowly start to take up less space in my head once I have more practice with the tools...Be patient with yourself and let equilibrium work itself out. 

For me, I dealt with my uBPDw for 14 years before finding out about BPD and how to better cope with it.  Having my eyes opened about BPD was the biggest thing that has happened in my life since the birth of our children, so it has naturally taken a lot of my time and attention... and I would also say that my mental health has improved more in the last 9 months than it did in the previous 14 years, so that's a lot of progress in exchange for some blown concentration. 

[LoveNotWar]

I think it is normal, when you first learn about BPD, to be sort of obsessed with it. You have been living in a difficult situation and then...WOW...this thing has a name, and it's NOT your fault.

I remember I wanted to learn everything I possibly could about BPD and I kept replaying past scenes in my mind and connecting them to BPD.

[sheepdog]

Me too, LoveNotWar.   

Jim - Truly, exercise is what saved me this year.  It was a hard, horrible year in a lot of ways and I did not always take care of myself but I made sure to exercise and eat right.  I think it helped so much.

And honestly, this board has been amazing.  I had so many awful feelings and guilt and the whole muck of it and then found this place and was like, "Are you kidding?  These people get me and are living it, too..."

Keep posting.
Take care of you.

[desperate dutchman]

Jim take it from someone that struggles with this everyday(I have ADHD) its normal.. when my w dysregulates I have harder time controling my unique thought processes...I have to go back to basics even on things that are usually on autopilot...practice mindfulness being in the moment at the moment...

On a pratical note I find that if I have a list of tasks at work I am better at keeping on track ...If its complex task break it down into smaller tasks... also with the adhd if I get a phone call I am very prone to dropping everything in order to take care of the subject of the call then I forget what I was doing before the call... If I have a list I can refresh my memory... I am also not responding to every text or call from my wife ...I will try to address her  only couple of times during the day...

Sheepdog has it right getting out and exercising is great at releasing anxiety and other built up emotions in a healthy way... It also helps with your focus