This is a bummer

[peiper]

after being on here I realize they hardly ever get better. For some reason I had a small hope she could... Im almost at the point of saying s re￦ it. I think after seeing how honest she is at the hearing tomorrow will clear that up. Knowing her and her ego she wont back down. Then she is so NO CONTACT

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[JohnLove]

Hi peiper. I've only read some of your posts. I don't know the full story but it sounds like you are going to a custody hearing tomorrow. I have been to more a few. It's almost inferred that everyone is either lying or stretching the truth at the least. Even "normal" people will sometimes resolve that the ends justifies the means... .or are they also suffering or undiagnosed?.

This website offered up a whole new world to me. I thank God for it. It is so hard. I wish I had it back then. I feel for your situation right now. No contact is often the only way to protect yourself.

[peiper]

No not custody unless its my sanity. In my opinion its custody of my soul. Shes 52 Im 49. Kids on both sides are gone. She just manipulates so well. At times I really do think Im the bad guy. Shes just so good at making me feel bad, it so weird Im a man I work in the oilfield, used to jump from planes in the Army. But a women has me scred up like this?

[formflier]

after being on here I realize they hardly ever get better. For some reason I had a small hope she could... Im almost at the point of saying s re￦ it. I think after seeing how honest she is at the hearing tomorrow will clear that up. Knowing her and her ego she wont back down. Then she is so NO CONTACT

What hearing are you talking about?

[peiper]

Have to go to a bogus restraning order hearing in the morning because i pissed her off.

[formflier]

Have to go to a bogus restraning order hearing in the morning because i pissed her off.

Bummer.  Can you go into more detail about how it came about? 

I'm hoping that you have legal representation? 

Have you gotten advice on this over at the "legal" board?

I would take exception to the statement about them hardly ever getting better. 

Most of the time it is the non that has to change first... .that will change the entire dynamic of the r/s and then change will happen.  We can't guarantee what change that will be...

Hang in there

[peiper]

Well she showed up, was hateful as the devil. And the woman judge found me guilty. Have a new restraining order now that lasts a year. And I have to sell my guns.

[formflier]

Well she showed up, was hateful as the devil. And the woman judge found me guilty. Have a new restraining order now that lasts a year. And I have to sell my guns.

Is it safe to say that your relationship with the pwBPD is over?

Did you have a lawyer?